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Voices from the Advocacy Against Stigma Conference

Raven Ariola
Whenever it comes to even our own facets of identity and how we identify, self stigma is wrapped into that. So being confident in who you are with yourself.

The Advocacy Against Stigma Conference tackles critical issues surrounding stigmatized life experiences and the barriers to healing created by pervasive stigma. This unique conference brings together individuals with lived experience, medical professionals, and advocates for a powerful exchange of stories and perspectives.

Explores the conference’s impact through a conversation with Raven Areola, co-creator of the event. We’ll delve into the importance of dismantling stereotypes, the role of lived experience in informing better treatment approaches, and the power of storytelling in fostering compassion and building a more inclusive community.

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Transcript

Whitney Menarcheck (00:01)

I attended the second annual Advocacy Against Stigma Conference in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. And I did something a little different. I met a few people and asked them to record a message, whatever they would like to say to help reduce stigma. And so I’m going to share those with you. And then we’re going to speak with Raven, one of the creators and leaders of the Advocacy Against Stigma Conference. And I’m really excited to also share that

 

Right after we finished our interview, I got word from Raven that the non -profit that he and his colleagues have been working on creating has been finalized. This is exciting news and we’re so happy for Raven, his colleagues, and what this means as we all continue fighting stigma.

 

Karley (01:58)

Okay, can you say your name? Sure, my name is Karley Snyder. Karley, what brings you to the conference today? So I’m here with the Students for Sensible Drug Policy Pittsburgh Community Chapter and we empower young people to do advocacy work both at their local community as well as the federal level.

 

So much of our work is around drug education, but there’s still unfortunately so much stigma tied around drug education, tied around mental health crisis, etc. So just one step at a time, having one conversation at a time to try to bridge that gap. That’s great. And you have been to a few conferences lately. You were just telling me off the mic.

 

Can you share something that kind of opened your mind that you learned about this week or had you thinking about things a little differently? Yeah, absolutely. So the conference I was at was NAMI’s Keystone Wellness Conference in Harrisburg.

 

And this was mainly a mental health conference, but the individual I met, she mentioned that she was in recovery. I automatically think drug and alcohol, just by that framing in general of those word choices. And just the nuance that she shared, no, that was from mental health issues. And she was in recovery from her traumatic experiences. And that just made my perspective shift slightly of, I may even have stigma of just the word recovery and how that directly correlates to drug and alcohol.

 

nothing maliciously intended on my end, but we’re also recovering from trauma. We’re recovering from mental health issues, rather. And it’s much more nuanced than even within the stigma -related space in the conference we’re here at today. Absolutely. And what is your message? What would you love everyone to hear as we reduce stigma?

 

Just be empathetic. We’re all human beings and it can get caught up in buzzwords and grand dollars and clinical outcomes, all that good stuff. Absolutely. But at the end of the day, we’re human beings and just one human relation, one hug, one handshake can be really powerful. Thank you so much. Absolutely.

 

Howard (04:03)

Can you tell me your name? Howard. Howard. Howard, what brought you to the conference today? I heard it was a lot of information that could be helpful. That’s good. So I figured I’d take a chance and see what can be helpful to me. Alright. And what do you want people to know about stigma or about anything? The thing I want them to know about stigma is that no matter what you do, someone has something to say about it.

 

You should be comfortable in who you are, your decisions. And whoever don’t like it will eventually come around. And if they don’t, as long as you’re secure within yourself, nothing else matters. You only live once. Wonderful. Anything else you’d like to share with us? Just that I hope people don’t listen to these negative words, you know?

 

Maggie (04:58)

So what brought you to this advocacy against stigma event today? I actually heard about it from someone that’s in a different organization. And since I work with Gateway Rehab, I’m pretty new in my position. Although I’ve been there for a couple of years now, I am a CRS that goes into hospitals, jails, and the community. And it’s very near and dear to my heart because I struggled with addiction for over 10 years. My brother’s still an active addiction. And so…

 

It’s really important to me. Well, congratulations because to be a CRS means that you have gone through recovery and the training and that’s amazing and we need more CRS. What is your message that everyone needs to know and why we need to reduce the stigma? That you are not alone. There’s so much help out there for individuals, for mental health, for drug and alcohol needs. There is so much help and so many others out there that are just like you.

 

Great. Thank you so much. Thank you.

 

Julie Butler (05:59)

And can you introduce yourself please? Hi, my name is Julie Brewer. Julie, what brings you to the stigma conference today? I am a person with legit experience in recovery. And I also work professionally in a field, in the treatment field. But what I want people to know

 

for real is that people who are in recovery and people with lived experience with criminal justice issues, they are defined regularly by the worst thing they’ve ever done. So take a second, think about the worst thing you’ve ever done.

 

How would you like to explain that on every job interview you go on? How would you like to explain that on numerous pieces of paper throughout a year that you have to fill out? That’s what stigma is, and that’s what it does to people. And I just want to let folks know that you don’t have to be defined by that, and society probably will continue to do that until we advocate.

 

and get policies in place that protect people with those experiences. But until we do, just try to be kind, realize everybody’s fighting a battle that you don’t know anything about, and be nice to each other. That’s it. Thanks. Thank you, Julie.

 

Whitney (07:28)

Today’s conversation is with Raven Areola, a medical cannabis expert and also one of the creators of the Advocacy Against Stigma Conference, an inspiring day of collaborative learning and knowledge sharing focused on breaking down barriers, challenging stereotypes, and fostering an environment that is inclusive, empathetic, and stigma free. Raven, thank you so much for joining me today.

 

Raven (07:52)

Thank you so much for having me Whitney. I mean, it was a pleasure to meet you at the Advocacy Against Stigma Conference and being able to have straight up care there was a real pleasure. So it’s been really great to continue the conversation and keep it going.

 

Whitney (08:02)

Thank you. Yes, I have attended both years of the conference and I’ve seen the evolution and I love it. It really, you know, it’s talking, you talk about like having this connection in the collaborative learning and it felt like a community effort. So it’s a great event and thank you for putting it on.

 

Raven (08:23)

Yeah, thank you. And that’s the kind of what I was really going for is kind of feeling that feeling of community, especially it being right now it’s only five hours. My goal is to extend it out to maybe seven to eight hours. But even in that five hours, there’s a lot of really dedicated discussion. There’s a lot of really great resource tables to go visit. But the biggest thing is we all have lunch together. We’re all jamming out to the disco music together. We’re all watching these presentations together. And I find that that can be the driving factor for a lot of really meaningful conversations in the future.

 

And I always tell people whenever they’re invited to the conversation, invited to the conference, is that of course we want them there for the day of, but the goal is to really give birth to something that’s going to be long lasting and collaborative efforts that are going to live way beyond the conference.

 

Whitney (09:08)

Okay, interesting. So before we get into the future, I’d like to go backwards into the past and you know, it’s a relatively new two years, two successful years. Can you take us back to 2022, 2021 when this idea started? What led you to go down this path?

 

Raven (09:30)

Yeah, great question. so back in 2022, I was working, I’m still working within the medical cannabis space. at that time I was working more hands on with like in the industry industry. Right now I focus more on like education and that kind of stuff. But at that point I was working with my colleague, Michael Palladini, who also puts on the conference with me and we were sitting outside, we were discussing all the things that kind of get in the way of people just getting the help they need. And

 

one of the biggest things is stigma. At that time, there was a, I don’t remember if we were discussing the article, but I guarantee it was fresh in both of our minds, but there was an article that was recently published in 2022 indicating that a study showed that the results of stigma and stigma and then also being stigmatized can oftentimes be more harmful than the actual treatment itself whenever we’re talking about mental health. So that, I believe,

 

the numbers were 400 patients across 30 countries. And it was 80 % of patients said that the stigma itself was more harmful than the actual depression or the actual mental health condition that they were seeking treatment for. And that even though if we weren’t talking about that directly, it was definitely fresh in both of our minds. And we were talking about stigma being one of these large intangible hydro like monsters, like how do you really get a hold of something like stigma and address it practically?

 

And one of the biggest things, honestly, just talking, just being able to bridge that conversation and pull these things out of the darkness so we can start seeing people for who they really are. And that kind of stuff especially is especially true in like the peer support world and the peer specialist world where we’ve broken down a lot of barriers to be able to see people for who they really are. But unfortunately, there’s so many other types of stigma that can fall into the cracks. And that’s where I feel that the conference is a great platform to

 

invite people of all kinds of different places that have been stigmatized, but not only to lament, but to also cross the barriers between groups that might not necessarily be communicating that that’s where the growth currently happened. So for example, so I know I’m, I know I’m ranting. I find that I’m ranting. for example, groups like, dance safe or harm reduction, more like pro drug groups with alongside more traditional addiction, healthcare, abstinence type groups.

 

Whitney (11:43)

No, no, no, this is great.

 

Right?

 

Raven (11:55)

understanding that meeting patients where they’re at is exactly that meeting where they’re at and not expecting them to be anywhere else. And I think that that’s a big part of how we can reduce stigma is just by bridging all the communities that are all doing great work, showing and showcasing the work they’re doing to actually break down the stigma and then develop the relationships between them for the sake of the patients. So that’s really what it came down to is me and Mike were just talking about how the heck can we actually reduce stigma.

 

And we determined that one of the biggest thing is just getting all of these people who were doing great work in a room together so we can really get a handle on it ourselves. I’m glad that you were there for both conferences because the first one, I’ll admit that was my first conference I’ve ever done period. So, I mean, so I mean, I was a little bit nervous on who we want and everything. And I was very grateful that it was sponsored by the Allegated County Department of Health. So we were able to get some local resources and everything there. Second one.

 

Whitney (12:37)

I wouldn’t have known.

 

Raven (12:50)

we were able to be a little bit more creative on who we could pull from our resource tables to actually provide the community what would be most beneficial. But it’s nice that you’ve been able to see both of those kind of evolve because you can see that there’s an evolving dialogue that comes along with the conference. The first one is more about getting everyone in the same room, addressing stigma as it is. Sorry, this is my kitty. Addressing stigma as it is. And then the second one is more focused on what kind of solutions can we bring to the table? So we were showcasing like

 

Whitney (13:20)

Yes.

 

Raven (13:20)

your guys’ organization would stop the stigma and straight up care, how are organizations out there really getting a handle on stigma? And I think that’s a great way to really kind of motivate that growth.

 

Whitney (13:32)

That’s exactly what we need, right? We all can easily fall into our silos. And you did have such an array of backgrounds with lived experience, and then there’s professionals in the room, the two ends of the spectrum of pro drug or safe use, and then at the other end, the abstinence base. And we’d be lying if we didn’t say there was stigma.

 

amongst ourselves, right? I think my way or my approach is the best way. I don’t like that other way. And that causes barriers too. And I think you’re hitting on something really important, which is what are we, those of us who have the best intentions, what are we doing that we’re not realizing are also creating barriers? So putting us all in that room together, getting us talking and connecting, that’s when really great things happen.

 

Raven (14:31)

Exactly. That’s my goal. That’s my goal. And what’s also nice is we can start to see how that dialogue is evolving and certain ideas are coming up. For example, with this year, a lot of the speeches and a lot of the conversations that we’re having, we were starting to understand the impact that language really builds the reality that we live in. And so much more whenever we’re talking about patient outcomes and the way that stigma can really make people feel less than a person, where they’re not feeling that they’re being seen for who they truly are.

 

Whitney (14:49)

Yes.

 

Raven (15:01)

Just even that, just being able to have so many people in the room understanding where the language can provide that is a great kind of learning point, a springboard for where we can really start to induce that change.

 

Whitney (15:13)

Yeah, absolutely. And what really struck me because I was talking to people, I had people coming up to the straight -up care table, was there was actually an individual who is unhoused. And I asked him, what brought you to the conference today? Because typically, conferences are kind of cold, you know, very…

 

academics oriented and things like that. And he said, I heard there will be resources. And I thought, how amazing because that like to have someone come to a conference who maybe was, that was never the intended audience, but why not? Let’s get again, the people who are directly benefiting from services or in need of services in the rooms as well. And I just was talking to him and I just thought it was just so amazing that you’re

 

breaking down stigma right there by giving people a safe place to come and access those resources.

 

Raven (16:17)

No, absolutely. And I’m really glad that you were able to like see that and that they, people were there. They kind of fulfilled that because that was a big, big pain point for me when building out this conference is that we’re inviting all these great organizations, but there’s two main groups that I need to have in the room with these people. One, those who need the resources, those who are unhoused, those who are struggling with substance abuse, those who are feeling stigmatized and struggling with mental health. And then also

 

may be providers who aren’t necessarily as in the know, you know what I mean? Like those who just generally might accidentally be stigmatizing their patients. So those are the two groups that I very greatly invite to the conference.

 

Whitney (16:57)

Yeah, no, that’s great. It’s all about just hearing those different voices, having that talking. The lunch component is very interactive, but also, you know, I saw the presentations were, there was such heart, and I don’t even know if I want to call them presentations as much as they were just sharing, perspective sharing.

 

Rachel Schuster, who talks a lot about language, who we’ve actually had on the podcast as well. And then we heard about the first LGBTQ plus recovery house that’s coming into Western PA. In the experience of Jules Mackenzie, who in having to go through treatment programs that were not respectful and inclusive of who they were. And that is the ultimate way.

 

One of the ultimate ways to address stigma is just to give light to those experiences and I appreciated that. That you brought people with that perspective in. I’ll say many times to anyone who is willing to sit through hearing me say it, but I hate going to conferences and hearing a doctor present or a counselor or whomever and I’m including me, I’ve been one of them. Why?

 

Why are we continuously putting those people in front of everyone? Why aren’t we listening to the population that is in need or who has benefited?

 

Raven (18:26)

Exactly. And that’s a big thing that’s important to me is elevating those lived experiences as well. So we can understand from those perspectives, how we can make this whole infrastructure better for everybody. And like you mentioned, kind of having doctors and other, other professionals on a platform like that is definitely incredibly helpful. I loved having the level of research that we had as far as preventing stigma and even worldwide stigma. But I find that having those lived experiences, that’s really

 

Whitney (18:48)

Yes.

 

Raven (18:54)

I find that a lot of the time the FDA, the DEA, they need a lot of data to be able to kind of substantiate different types of clinical trials. But people, we need stories to be able to really understand other people.

 

Whitney (19:06)

Yes, yes. And I can easily go down a rabbit hole about data. I value it. I appreciate it. I see. Right. And it’s it can take too long sometimes to have an impact. And so it’s through those stories. And it’s by talking to someone that says, you know, I need this different thing than what you’re expecting. I mean, because

 

Raven (19:15)

yeah, it’s worldly important, absolutely important.

 

Whitney (19:34)

The national survey says X. No, what I actually need is Y. Okay, well let’s do that. Why are we wasting time trying to shove something down somebody’s throat if that’s not what they really need? We’re not hearing them.

 

Raven (19:49)

No, exactly. Yeah, exactly. And I think that that unfortunately starts whenever people were very young. That starts whenever you’re born, I feel like. Those people start projecting what they want to hear, when what they want to treat with, and unfortunately instead of who you actually are. And I think a big part of being able to provide that platform for those lived experiences is so we can shy away from that kind of preaching to the choir kind of idea. So where if we do have doctors and other healthcare professionals up there one after another, it’s great. But like you said, it can…

 

Whitney (19:55)

Yeah.

 

Raven (20:18)

get really dry at a conference whenever it’s just, well, yeah, that’s what we’re doing already one after another. So that’s why it’s really important to bring a bunch of really innovative ideas along with lived experience onto the platform.

 

Whitney (20:30)

Yes, yes. And then the connection piece, and maybe this is where we go into talking about the future, right? I imagine you’re already planning for 2025. And what else is in store for the advocacy against stigma movement that you are leading?

 

Raven (20:52)

Yeah, I’m glad that you asked. So Mike and I, we’ve, he’s taken the reins on pushing advocacy against stigma as a nonprofit. So hopefully next time that we discuss in our first few meetings here, that will be a nonprofit organization. Last year, we were able to go through John’s Echoes and Jade Wellness, Jade Wellness, as you know, for our, our financial transparency and going through the 501 3C, but having our own will definitely open a lot of doorways to be able to really kind of hopefully destroy some of those stigmas on the way of patient care.

 

Whitney (21:05)

How exciting.

 

Raven (21:21)

And a big one would be able to offer more platform, more space for those that are interested in the conference.

 

Whitney (21:28)

That’s incredible. So you’re becoming a nonprofit, which is just congratulations. There’s certainly a need. I don’t, I mean, we could have thousands of work, of people, organizations in one area working on Sigma and it wouldn’t be enough. So I’m excited that you’re there. You’re bringing your perspective. And that makes me happy that, that we’re going to continue having this conference because it’s a great, you’re really, you’re doing a lot of,

 

Raven (21:34)

thank you.

 

Exactly.

 

Whitney (21:57)

great things. And what else are you seeing as advocacy against stigma kind of takes on that nonprofit? There’s going to be the conference. Where else are we going to start seeing your work popping up?

 

Raven (22:07)

Yeah.

 

Yeah, that’s actually a really great question. I’m glad you asked. I would love to be able to extend it out to more like continuing education credits. I think that would be a big point of education for healthcare professionals, pharmacists, even those in the judiciary system or justice system, like being able to provide education from a more compassionate standpoint, I think it’d be a very big thing.

 

Whitney (22:18)

Okay.

 

Mm -hmm.

 

Raven (22:34)

Also letting people know from those worlds what’s actually out there and available. If it’s not available in your community, what are other communities doing to address certain issues like mental health or substance abuse or even things like age stigma, things that, like I said, fall through the cracks.

 

Whitney (22:48)

Yes. Right. I mean, there are so many things that can be stigmatized. Just life in general can be stigmatized. And so I love that you’re having this broad view of it. Of course, I don’t want to minimize addressing substance use stigma and mental health stigma. There are so many things, though, that if someone’s experiencing stigma for age, race, socioeconomic status, that can lead.

 

Raven (22:57)

Yeah.

 

Whitney (23:17)

mental health and substance use. So let’s address all stigma because they’re not completely separate and distinct things. They can lead to one another. So you’re taking it upriver in a way and that’s what we need, right? We need those upriver. And I’m excited about the, you said, sharing what other communities are doing because there are so many programs out there that people have no idea about.

 

Raven (23:31)

Exactly.

 

Whitney (23:46)

and that are making an impact. And there’s just not that awareness because of stigma. We don’t talk about this great addiction movement in whatever city because it’s just people aren’t giving it the time it deserves.

 

Raven (23:59)

Yeah, a great example is that from the conference I learned that only Pittsburgh and Philly have clean needle exchange programs. And the big reason is because we don’t want to talk about that. Yeah, so I mean, it goes to show that being able to provide the light to that will help hopefully go a long way at addressing these issues with a little bit more compassion.

 

Whitney (24:19)

Right, right, absolutely. And the conversations that’ll come and the motivation, okay, well, why doesn’t my area have one? And who is stopping it? Right, it can be done. So what are the barriers? And then that creates an action plan.

 

Raven (24:38)

Yeah, exactly. Yeah, exactly. Being able to identify the barriers and to really be able to get the patients the treatment they need and improve the outcomes. Like I said, a recent study, which I’d be happy to link to you, by the way, was indicating 80 % of patients said that their stigma, being stigmatized, was more, was more debilitating than their actual condition. And I think that alone says a lot.

 

Whitney (24:49)

Yes, please.

 

It does. I’m curious, and maybe the article got into it, but what are your thoughts as to why that’s the case?

 

Raven (25:10)

Well, I think that actually harkens back to something that we learned from the first conference, which thankfully was a second was a value that came back during the second one was that idea of self stigma as well. The even if maybe we’re not being stigmatized by our doctors, we have been stigmatized before. So we expect that. So in a way that it’s always a two way, it’s always a two way street. Like you said, none of these things exist by themselves. So it’s nothing’s in an envelope. Everything’s always going to be influencing one another and connect it to itself. So

 

whenever it comes to even our own facets of identity and how we identify, self stigma is wrapped into that. So being confident in who you are with yourself, being able to see people for who they are as themselves without projecting anything onto them can be exceptionally difficult. I mean, it’s exceptionally difficult to just see people for who they are. So we have to unlearn all that. And that’s okay to unlearn all that. Taking it from a position of compassion is a big part of it as well. Recognizing that

 

Whitney (25:59)

You

 

Raven (26:10)

If your doctor is stigmatizing you, it’s not just because they got to stick up their butt and they’re an old school doctor and they don’t want to learn anything. Maybe they just haven’t been exposed to it and that they have room to learn. And like, I just feel compassion across the board is going to be a big catalyst to helping this movement grow.

 

Whitney (26:30)

I appreciate you saying that because it can, I know I fall into this myself. I can get frustrated. Come on, why can’t you use the right language? Like don’t, you know, don’t you care? But that’s not going to elicit the person’s motivation to engage in maybe in language that’s less stigmatizing. It’s just gonna create another barrier and separating us and putting us against one another.

 

So thinking about the person who is maybe acting in a way that is stigmatizing or using words or what have you, having compassion for them is something that I know I need to do better with.

 

Raven (27:12)

It’s difficult, it can be, and I like to think all the time, I might be getting out there, I like to think all the time that there seems to be something at play that wants us always to be divided and fighting, so anything we can do that’s actively acting against that, that’s just loving one another and appreciating each other for what they are, is doing the world what it needs.

 

Whitney (27:31)

Yeah, yes. And coming back to the unlearning, I mean, that’s such a big part and it takes some intentionality. And I’m even thinking this through as we talk now that I probably haven’t recognized that intentionality and caring are different. Someone can care and not have the mindfulness and intentionality yet to be able to implement, you know, the

 

Raven (27:37)

now.

 

Whitney (27:59)

the non -stigmatizing approaches. In many ways, our brains are built to categorize and to classify and to make these rash assumptions because way back when we had to for survival, we don’t really need that as much anymore. Yes, if we see something dangerous, we wanna quickly get away from it. However, it’s not so relevant in a…

 

a society of where there are laws and things like that. And I think that’s part of it is recognizing that there is this human instinct to make these rash assumptions.

 

Raven (28:42)

No, yeah, to make these rash assumptions based on that survival mechanism to categorize and recognize that that might be something unfamiliar or unsafe and we do naturally a lot of the time fear something that might be unfamiliar to us. So whenever we project the stigmas, it’s nine times out of 10, I would even say 10 times out of 10. It’s completely unintentional and it’s probably not even, they’re not even aware that they’re doing it. I know I’m guilty of it. I think everyone’s guilty of it. But I think it’s things like the conference that really do help.

 

Whitney (28:54)

Yes.

 

Raven (29:12)

bring it all to light.

 

Whitney (29:13)

It does, it does. And with the conference coming up, how do people get involved? What can all of us do to support what you’re working on?

 

Raven (29:28)

That’s another amazing question. So you can go to our website advocacyagainstigma .com where our amazing developer Carolyn, shout out Carolyn who works tirelessly to make sure all the backend is all aligned with everyone’s emails and everything. So you can submit your information there or you can reach out at info at advocacyagainstigma .com or you can just reach out to me directly. That’s always fine too. I’m easy to find on LinkedIn or wherever, but

 

You can go to our website advocacy against stigma .com to get involved. We’re always looking for sponsors. We’re always looking for educators and researchers or anyone who’s breaking the mold and doing something innovative to help destroy stigma and help improve patient outcomes overall. And that can, like Whitney and I have talked about, that can be anything from age -based stigma to, I mean, I’m a cannabis person. So I mean, for me, it’s about what medicine you use, but it can be really anything. It could be anything at all that people unfortunately are stigmatized every day.

 

and it’s getting in the way of the treatment they really need. So if you have an organization that’s contributing in a great way, I would love to talk to you.

 

Whitney (30:28)

How exciting the movement that you’re you’re leading is gonna do some really great things and I’m gonna ask you a question that I don’t ask everyone, but I think it’s really appropriate fast forward five years into the future and Advocacy against stigma is everything you’ve dreamt it would become What does that look like?

 

Raven (30:54)

Hmm now that is a great question

 

So completely off the cuff, I’m not great at thinking five -year plans out, but I’ll say that I would like for it to be a conference that is known on a national level, that we have national harm organizations alongside, but I also want it to be able to be something that has inspired more local organizations to take that upon themselves. Advocacy Against Stigma, as I’ve mentioned for the first time, was really hyper -located to Allegheny County in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

 

Second time around, it was kind of more broader in Western Pennsylvania. I would love to see, I would love to see Cleveland have one. I would love to see Chicago have one. I would love to see all these little, I would love to see communities, even smaller communities and places like West Virginia have their own stigmatizing conferences so they can all discuss solutions together to really get down to the problems.

 

Whitney (31:51)

how fascinating to have these little pop -up working conferences of, you know, bringing it to the surface and saying, okay, what are we all going to do? How are we going to work together to address this?

 

Raven (32:03)

Exactly. And because one thing I’ve seen from our conference alone just in the past two years is how many relationships have been built on that, how many working collaborative relationships have been built on that to benefit the patients at the end of the day. So seeing that nationwide, I mean, that’s all that’s way more than I could ask for.

 

Whitney (32:19)

Yeah, that would be incredible. And that we do so much from a top down approach. And you’re really going to the area in the community and leveraging the resources and knowledge. Yes, look at the other places. What are they doing? Can we do that? What would we need? What do we have that will help us do that? But it’s really making it about each community is unique, just like each person is unique.

 

And maybe one community is seeing a certain stigma more than a different type. And so how do they rally together to address it? And that’s just incredible community -based work.

 

Raven (33:00)

Yeah, I think that one of the big fallacies that’s happened, especially in the mental health field and just in general behavioral health, is treating things with this kind of blanket approach. So I think being able to get in and really address the nuances that individualize the communities and individualize the patients is what it’s all about. It’s from the ground up. So yeah, thank you.

 

Whitney (33:18)

Yeah. Yeah. I’m excited. And I’m just so happy that I’ve been able to attend and will continue to attend. I’ll. Yes, I want to support in any way, because I just think you’re doing amazing things and there’s just, you know. We get we can easily get tied into or kind of stuck in a mindset of.

 

Raven (33:28)

and I hope you’re on our planning committee calls as well.

 

Whitney (33:46)

I have to put myself first and so I need to focus on my business or my work or my, my, my, but that’s not when the amazing things happen. It’s through that collaboration and relationship building and giving way more than you get. That’s when we really make change. And so I’m on board, whatever you need, I’m here for.

 

Raven (34:07)

Heck yeah, thank you so much Whitney, this has been a real honor.

 

Whitney (34:09)

Yeah, it’s been great. And before we fully wrap up, I do have one more question for you. If people walk away from today and they can only take one thing with them, what would you like it to be?

 

Raven (34:22)

I have a piece of wisdom here that I have framed on my wall that I think is very important.

 

Whitney (34:27)

Okay. Yes.

 

Raven (34:32)

So whenever you look at, this comes from Ram Dass, whenever you look at the tree, you appreciate the tree for what it is. You’re not caught up thinking like, it’s too tall, it’s too bushy. I don’t like this about it. I don’t like that about it. I wish it were this for me. You just like the tree. So I think that we should always try to practice that with people as well.

 

Whitney (34:52)

I’m gonna need you to send me a picture or something that I can get so that I remember that myself, because that’s amazing. I love that. That’d be great. Well, thank you Raven so much for taking the time, for the work you’re doing, for the work you’re going to do. It’s having an impact.

 

Raven (35:00)

I will.

 

Thank you so much. And like I said, it’s been a real honor and I look forward to seeing you on the planning committee calls and seeing you at the conference next year.

 

Whitney (35:15)

Yeah, absolutely. And all of you listening, get involved. We all can do something, right? Whether it’s getting involved with advocacy against stigma or whatever local organization is in your area, you don’t have to be an expert. You just have to care. So share this, like, subscribe, get this resource out to more people, and let’s just keep reducing the stigma. Thank you all for listening.

 

Raven (35:40)

Yeah.




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The inaugural live stream of “Reduce the Stigma – Unfiltered” dives deep into mindset. From self-limiting beliefs to daily practices and cause for celebration, this episode delivers valuable insights into how to harness your mindset to overcome challenges and thrive. 

Links

Angel Fuller: angelfuller.peerspecialist.us and on YouTube @riseandthrivepeerservices 

Roger Crouell: https://syndicate12.com/members/rogerc/ and https://straightupcare.org/consultant-profile/465

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Whitney – It Couldn’t Be Done by Edgar Albert Guest
Dr. Mo – The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and Think Again by Adam Grant
Roger – Sylvester Stallone movies Rambo and Rocky
Angel – Forrest Gump movie

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Whitney | She/Her (00:00)

Welcome everybody. This is the very first live stream show of Reduce the Stigma.

 

And Reduce the Stigma is brought to all of you by Straight Up Care, the comprehensive telehealth platform for peer support services. No matter what you’re going through, there’s a peer specialist ready to support you. Visit Straight Up Care, where recovery is powered by lived experience. And today’s episode is in particular sponsored by Syndicate 12.

 

Syndicate 12 is an online recovery community and social media platform designed exclusively for those with mental health or substance use lived experience. With live chat rooms, contests, posts, and more, you earn points for taking care of your recovery and then can redeem them for great rewards. We’re all headed over to Syndicate 12 because together recovery is possible. I’m your host, Whitney Menarcheck, and with me today, I have such a great group.

 

and I’m gonna let them introduce themselves here in a moment. Before we do that though, we just launched this segment. We already have two, we have Recovery Conversations and Meet the Peer, and today we are starting our new segment. We ran a contest and we had some great suggestions and I’m excited to share that the new segment, this segment, will be called Reduce the Stigma Unfiltered because we’re gonna have those tough conversations that go.

 

deep into the things that most people are too nervous or maybe it’s kind of taboo to talk about, but we want to reduce the stigma around everything. And that’s what we’re doing here at Reduce the Stigma. So I’m going to first ask Dr. Mo, can you introduce yourself and tell us why are we talking about mindset if we’re a podcast that is going to explore taboo topics?

 

Dr. Mo (01:55)

Yeah, absolutely. So I am Dr. Mo I’m the CEO of Straight Up Care and I’m super happy to be here on Unfiltered. So the reason we start with mindset is, I mean, where does everything start, right? It’s how we think about things, how we understand things, our perceptions, the way we take things in. And so I think if we don’t start talking about mindset, the way we think about things, our biases, and how things really look through our lens, then we’re not.

 

doing ourselves justice for the hard conversations that we’re having coming forward. So we thought if we started with mindset and being able to understand and intake and know that we can learn and unlearn things, then we would be doing ourselves a disservice. So here we are on Unfiltered talking about mindset first.

 

Whitney | She/Her (02:38)

Thank you so much, Dr. Mo. And with us today, we have two incredible peer specialists that really are setting incredible examples of how to implement a healthy mindset and use that mindset to overcome challenges and be successful in your life. So I’m gonna go ahead and ask Angel, please introduce yourself.

 

Angel Fuller (03:00)

Hi, I’m Angel. I’m a North Carolina peer support and I’ve been working with a Straight Up Care -up care, I think, since the beginning. So I’m really excited to be here and hopefully we can all grow together.

 

Whitney | She/Her (03:18)

Thank you, and Roger.

 

Roger Crouell (03:21)

My name is Roger Cruell I’m another one certified pit support specialist here with Straight Up Care Care, and I’m just glad to be here. Glad to be here.

 

Whitney | She/Her (03:29)

We’re glad to have you both and we’re hopefully gonna learn more about you as we go through. And everyone in the audience, please feel free to submit your questions because we’re here to talk about what you wanna talk about. And so to get things started, because we are talking about mindset, I’m gonna go ahead and ask you, Angel, what, you know, mindset’s a bit of a buzzword lately. In your words, what is mindset?

 

Angel Fuller (03:56)

mindset’s pretty broad. I guess it depends on who you ask. But for me, I’ll correlate back to what Dr. Mo said, perception, the way I see things because, and it’s also to me mindset is also growth though, because with the proper mindset we can grow what you don’t know, you can’t grow. So once I get in the mindset of growth and understanding, then I have two choices to move forward in that growth and understanding or to stay where I am.

 

Dr. Mo (04:20)

Thank you.

 

Angel Fuller (04:26)

So mindset for me is really one of the building blocks and foundations for being able to grow and move forward.

 

Whitney | She/Her (04:35)

Wonderful. That’s a great definition and really sets the stage for what we’re talking about. And like Dr. Mo said, we have to have that mindset to talk about these tough things. So Roger, where does mindset come in? You know, we’re a platform about lived experience, addiction, mental health, all those tough things. Why is it that mindset plays an important part?

 

Roger Crouell (05:00)

Because it controls the way you think, you feel, you behave. It pivots everything you do, how you see yourself. So once you do that, you’ll stop repeating what you do and involved in your situation.

 

Whitney | She/Her (05:17)

Yeah, absolutely. And you know, I’m curious, and this is both to anyone, Dr. Mo, you as well, what are some of the things that you do to tend to your mindset and maybe start the day in that right mindset?

 

Dr. Mo (05:36)

I’ll start. So we’ve recently started putting stickies on our mirror.

 

of something that we want to be reminded of. And I’m talking about me and my six year old daughter. And so last night she said, what are we, what are we putting on the wall tonight? And I was like, I don’t know what’s something we, you know, something we want to remember something that we’re whatever, you know, and she was like, I think we should put lucky up there. And I was like, what do you mean lucky? What does that mean? And so we ended up talking about gratitude and what gratitude looks like. And that if we think about things that are great in our lives, that brings more greatness to our lives. And we have this like awareness of greatness and what it looks like.

 

and how to magnify that. And so we turned lucky into gratitude, but that’s how I start my morning too. You know, I don’t know if anybody else does this, but I often reach for my phone, maybe to check what time, maybe to see how many, I don’t know, people have messaged me so I can get started. But before I reach for that phone, I spend a little bit of time, what am I grateful for? Because if that can be the first few thoughts that I have in the morning, then I can radiate that throughout the day. And so when I think about mindset and how I kind of strategically

 

place things in my path, that’s one of the things that I do.

 

Roger Crouell (06:47)

If I could pick it back off my doctor Moses I do I do some something similar They do things before I wake up in the morning. I listen at something spiritual now listen at some motivational you y ‘all probably see a lot of stuff I put in our platform or about the motivation because the first 15 minutes When you open your eyes the first 15 minutes of your date, that’s how you are. You can portray your outcome If you listen at something negative you tell your mind it’s gonna be negative. I don’t want to get up to go to work I don’t just it’s done cute you move

 

But if you put some positive in it, let’s go get it. The day is done. Go, go, go. Your day will get better. It will heighten that much.

 

Dr. Mo (07:27)

Absolutely.

 

Whitney | She/Her (07:27)

Nice. What about you, Angel?

 

Angel Fuller (07:29)

I think that for me, the first thing I do, honestly, when my feet touch the floor is I start my workout video. Now, it doesn’t sound like a good mindset motivation, but the program that I follow, one of the things that she says all the time is it’s you against you. So as soon as my feet hit the floor, I’m making the decision whether I’m gonna be productive in this activity because getting my body moving and taking that quality time to myself every morning is very important.

 

but not only that, it gives me the time to think about what post I’m going to put on social media today for my peer support, rise and thrive. And then when I get outside, after I do my sweating, thanks to Roger, I then listen to a motivational video for my entire walk. Okay. And by the time I get back in the house, I’m prepared to feed the kids and start the day and make sure that I’m being filled up enough in myself to be able to fill up other people because.

 

Whitney | She/Her (08:13)

Okay.

 

Angel Fuller (08:25)

I lived in a survival mode for so long. Even after I got cleaned and I got sober, it was just survival. And I told somebody one time, they said, well, why don’t you tell your story? And I said, for many years, I was just trying to rebuild my life. And I didn’t want to have to recommit to all the stuff that I had done to new people. I didn’t want to do that. So it took me a long time to get ready and prepared to be able to give of myself in all of what I had done.

 

to other people in a positive way. So listening to those things that Roger listens to every morning and telling me that, telling myself that I’m here against myself every day reminds me now and gets me in the mindset of wanting to help somebody else. Whereas I used to just want to help myself to survive.

 

Dr. Mo (09:14)

I love that. That means you’re thriving.

 

Angel Fuller (09:16)

I’m trying!

 

Roger Crouell (09:17)

Yes.

 

Dr. Mo (09:19)

I love it. So Angel, one thing that you said that I want to kind of jump back to.

 

When you first started talking about like mindset and how to how to shift your mindset and having that growth mindset I was reminded of Adam Grant’s book called think again and I use this in a lot of my classes and we talk about what does it look like to relearn things right so Amory was somebody who was on Whitney interviewed and a super awesome dude and he was talking about how he had to relearn What it looked like to go out and do things in public sober, right? He didn’t have to

 

to learn how to eat again, but he had to learn how to go out and do things again sober, right? And that’s a whole process that we don’t think about. And ever since I watched and listened to Whitney and Anne -Marie talk about this, I’ve been using this explanation often to help people understand a little bit more about what addiction and recovery, the part of recovery that it looks like, right? Like we are able to do these things, but it looked different, right? Anytime we make a large change,

 

We know how to do some of the things, but we really have to shift our mindset around it. And then what does it look like when we get new information? So if I give you a new research article that totally, you know, or maybe I give you three, let’s say three research articles that proven a new point, right? And your old mindset says, okay, but this thing is what I’ve been told and this is what I know. Okay. But now we have new information, so we have to make new memories. We have to start using that new information moving forward.

 

Angel Fuller (10:49)

Mm -hmm.

 

Dr. Mo (10:49)

I think sometimes people get really stuck in that, but this is what I already know and this feels comfortable for me, right? And I get it as humans, we don’t honestly like our brains are these wonderful machines, but they don’t actually want to think, right? They just kind of want to go and get the things done. And so we have to really push ourselves when it’s time to think, when it’s time to use new words. So I was talking about like, even today in class, we were talking about the shift in vocabulary with trans people. And even though maybe they then didn’t make

 

make sense to you at first, either you did a couple of things. You either started saying it because you knew it was the right thing to do and you wanted to make sure people felt included, or you started to think about it and understand it and they, them is plural. And maybe that’s because they feel like themselves as plural, right? And so understanding that these new language and new things happen and then we change and we shift, right? We do it all the time. We just kind of buck against it. But I think when we talk about mindset, we can’t be so stuck in it. Like you were saying, Angel, we have to be able to have this growth.

 

we can have our lens and that’s fabulous and amazing, but then how can we open up that lens to be able to shift when needed, to pivot where we see it’s time to pivot and to be respectful of other people if we’re talking about the other scenarios that I brought up. So that was kind of some of my takeaways from you as I heard you talk.

 

Angel Fuller (12:08)

Yeah, growth mindset and what you’re talking about learning to adhere to new material is we’re wired for confirmation bias. So if I’ve heard it enough and I’ve experienced it enough, even if I can’t explain why that we’re I’m seeking confirmation bias from what I already know, because that makes me feel comfortable. So part of growth mindset and mindset in general is being able to step outside of your level of comfort.

 

Whitney | She/Her (12:09)

in it.

 

Angel Fuller (12:37)

And it’s scary, which is why we don’t do it. I mean, if somebody told you go stick your hand in that water, there’s an alligator in there, are you gonna do it? Well, probably not. But if somebody says, okay, that alligator has a muzzle on it, and I promise you, they cannot break it, go stick your hand in that water because something good is in there, are you gonna do it then? So we have to get past what we’ve known and what’s been filled into us, even if it’s good stuff, because there might be even more good stuff on the other side of that.

 

I struggle with confirmation bias a lot, especially with things in the mid -snow health field and new endeavors that I’ll be coming to in the fall. And I’m like, I don’t want that. I don’t like that. That doesn’t feel comfortable. I don’t want to go there. I don’t want to do that internship. I just don’t feel good about this. And I’ve had to have some hard conversations lately with people to try and change my own mindset on how I feel about going into this next season of life because some of the things I don’t agree with or some of them I don’t understand.

 

And how am I gonna get past that so that I can learn what I was sent there to learn because obviously there’s a reason why I’m going there. I haven’t figured it out yet because I don’t agree with it but there’s something for me there. So I’ve been working a lot with mindset lately to try and just branch out but like I said it’s scary.

 

Whitney | She/Her (13:56)

It is scary and it’s, we’ve reached a point in life because of experiences, what we’ve been taught and things like that. And it can be so ingrained in us without us even realizing certain things that we’ve taken in. And that is probably one of the hardest things, at least in my experience is saying, wait, that natural way that I’ve always thought I’m going to question it and trying to go about it differently. So I’m…

 

I’m gonna throw this over to Roger. Roger, what, so we have a question here from Sarah. How do you get started on changing that mindset, on working on your mindset? Because she’s saying she doesn’t even know where to begin. What would you say, what is that first step someone can take whenever we’re talking about really rewiring how our brains work?

 

Roger Crouell (14:46)

Good question sir. first of all, it starts with you You have to believe in yourself. Look in the mirror and Keep telling yourself every day you can do this even though how scary it is You just got to rewire your whole rain what you can’t can’t do it and just go for You spend all your time doubting yourself now put our positive energy saying I can do this Pat yourself on the back. Look at the mirror and and because you gotta be

 

Comfortable being uncomfortable. That’s how I used to.

 

Whitney | She/Her (15:20)

to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Okay, how? And you know, because that’s one of my one of the questions I had because, you know, thinking about like mental health and addiction or even involvement in the criminal justice system, there’s this belief of if people just want it bad enough, and it makes it sound like, mindset is a quick flip of the switch.

 

Angel Fuller (15:25)

Bye.

 

Whitney | She/Her (15:47)

you are doing something wrong or you know you aren’t caring enough where where’s the difference like because we know mindset is different whenever men wanting it enough can we kind of like explore that what is it that is more than just you know it’s not easy

 

Roger Crouell (16:05)

But it was your purpose. See you got to find a purpose also. It’s a purpose to evolution You got to evolve And then you start evolving till you be involved You know, you have to take those things They stages and all that because if you don’t you’re gonna repeat You’re gonna repeat the process

 

Dr. Mo (16:26)

And I think it’s habit stacking too, right? Like we have to figure out what’s the one good thing we can do today that we can have it stack on. So if today, the only thing you can do is not drink over the noon hour, then cool. That’s great. You know, we talk about harm reduction, we look at harm reduction, but what does that look like? And really actually starting to move the needle when we’re talking about addiction, right? So we may think like you’re struggling and you’re having some heartache and like you should be able to make a change. This should be enough.

 

that should be your breaking point or your rock bottom if you will but that doesn’t matter what you think about that person that person has to kind of have the support and the tools right so it’s one thing to say like

 

You do it. And it’s another thing to like have somebody there to say, Hey man, this is how we can do it together. Or maybe try this or like have some of that like outpouring. So that’s a hard one to answer when, when addiction, when there’s substances that come into play. But if it’s just you and mindset about making a change and maybe you don’t have substances involved, like then it really is you kind of like figuring out where your bootstrap is and maybe it’s not a bootstrap, maybe it’s a swimsuit, maybe it’s whatever. Right. And just putting it on one piece at a time.

 

and being able to just make that next step. So maybe today you just put, you want to start surfing, which I do, why am I not surfing? And so today I just put my swimsuit on and I get out the door, right? And then tomorrow I put my swimsuit on, I get out the door, I get to the beach and then so on and so forth, right? It’s just making those little itty bitty steps. And then maybe one day I’m actually out there surfing and I make a video from out there, right? Like whatever that looks like. But it really is just kind of like, what are those habits look like? How can I make something small? I think people think, and honestly people ask me this all the time, how do you,

 

How do you look busy? Which I feel like I’m happy busy. So that’s cool. But like, how do you do these things that you do? Well, I just try and do at least a little bit a day, right? Because the minute I go, whew, I do not want to tackle that next grant, Whitney. Right? The minute I do that and then I put the grant in a pile and then I go, yeah, I don’t want to look at that yet. And then five, 10, 12 days have passed and I’m like, my God, I have 12 days worth of work to do on that grant. But if every day I say, hey Whitney, my stuff’s updated. Hey Whitney, this.

 

Whitney | She/Her (18:22)

you

 

Dr. Mo (18:39)

me that right every day I say I only did a little bit today but I did something right then I know that I’m making progress and then by the end of the year I’m like hey we got everything done and we got the grant this is amazing right so just little little itty -bitty steps lead to huge huge huge things

 

Whitney | She/Her (18:56)

You know, I love that you bring up like piecing it together. One of the things that I always have like uses an analogy was like the snowball effect and that no big win comes out of nowhere. It comes from a whole lot of little wins and they build on one another and it’s like that first little like snowball that rolls into the snow gets bigger, bigger, bigger because we build on it. The excitement builds and I’ve

 

I don’t remember exactly how you said it, Mo, but you were saying, maybe I didn’t do everything today, but I did something. And why is it, why are we like, why do we have a perspective of like, that isn’t good enough, right? Because that’s what it is. We have these expectations that we’ve been drilled into us that we’re almost in a way setting ourselves up for failure. Has anyone else had that?

 

Angel F (19:49)

I definitely, I just did a post about this not too long ago actually because a lot of times we can implement expectations not just on ourselves but on other people and I had to have this hard conversation with somebody not too long ago and they were worried about the expectations that were being placed upon them and I said, you know, I want you to think about something and this wasn’t a negative to the person who is placing the expectations on them. I said, but I want you to think about

 

has the person who has placed those expectations on you been able to achieve those expectations for themselves? Because here’s the thing, if they have not, then I need you to reduce the pressure on yourself because obviously it’s harder than both of you think it is and that’s okay. But don’t put so much pressure on the expectation and don’t allow other people’s expectations to weigh you down because unless you’re working in tandem to achieve that expectation together,

 

It’s just one person pushing another to see who can get it how far and you’re hoping that the other person maybe gets there before you do because you just haven’t figured it out yet either. Start working together. Stop setting unrealistic or unspoken expectations on other people as well. If I don’t know your expectation, I can’t help it and I can’t fix it. And if I set an unrealistic expectation on myself, well, but why?

 

Dr. Mo (21:12)

I love that.

 

I think about this, like, you’re coming home and it’s been a really long day and you’re driving your car and you really, really hope that your significant other did the dishes and you walk in and the dishes aren’t done and you are immediately pissed off. And you’re like, how, they’re like, what are you mad about? Well, the dishes, you’re like, I didn’t know you needed, I didn’t, you didn’t say a word, right? So how am I supposed to read your mind to know that the dishes should be done? Like, yeah, maybe we have like a, you should do the dishes if you’re just chilling. But still, like, if you don’t tell somebody what you expect,

 

from them, you should never expect them to do anything, right? You have no communication in there, you have no like reason for them to do the thing if you’ve not communicated it. That was great.

 

Whitney | She/Her (21:55)

And to take it even a step further, if I can, in this little off of mindset, but I have to just add this in. Let’s also communicate how to support us. We expect people to know, right? If I want my wife to do this, I want her to show up in a certain way. Well, how the hell is she supposed to know what I’m expecting or needing if I don’t communicate it? That was one of my favorite things working with clients was to say,

 

especially like when they were returning to the community after incarceration. Write it up. What do you need people to do when you get into the community? How can they support you? What are the warning signs? Let’s not hope that people will catch, pick up on it. Let’s give people the tools and the information to be there for us because that’s going to benefit us. And then let’s also ask people, what is the best thing to do to support you? So it’s like all of these different ways of communication.

 

I’m hearing routines and habits, stacking the winds. What other things go into having the right mindset or cultivating and feeding that mindset?

 

Dr. Mo (23:06)

So one thing I made a video on today was making a crisis plan. So again, a little off, but hang on, I’ll bring it back in. So we know that if we’re making a change, right, whether it’s a mindset change, it’s a substance change, it’s just a life change, and life throws us a monkey wrench, maybe somebody passes away and it’s extremely traumatic or some other traumatic event happens. And we know that our old habits are gonna be our first go -to, right? So what can we do to plan in advance?

 

I’m not a doomsdayer. I’m not saying plan for everything that ever is gonna happen, but I’m saying what happens?

 

when a crisis happens, who do you text? Who do you call? What do you do? And then have that plan in place. Cause I don’t know about you guys, but anytime something gets a little crisisy, my brain goes, and I can’t do anything. Right. I don’t know where to turn. I don’t know who to reach out to. I have a huge array of amazing people in my life, but I feel so alone. And if we can kind of create these plans when we’re not in crisis, who do we reach out to? What does it look like? That helps us to kind of, again, stack up things in our favor for when things

 

get out of control. So we know when our brain is in another place how to kind of navigate forward. So that I guess tools and tricks I guess sorry.

 

Roger Crouell (24:21)

Like dr. Moe, you know me and also y ‘all you know, I work with our inmates so I asked I asked them Every time you’ll plan the action your plan to action your plan to action and some of the things in there Why don’t things don’t go your way when you get out? You burned a lot of bridges. You did a lot of things you have to where you’re gonna go What job gonna see cuz life gonna throw you all kind of more courage. You got a bulls -eye on your back already Do not revert back to what you know

 

Dr. Mo (24:36)

Thanks.

 

Roger Crouell (24:51)

Why you in that take time to put a plan action together and you should be I’m not going to say fine whether to go smoother

 

Dr. Mo (25:00)

Absolutely, I love that. So another thing.

 

Angel F (25:02)

That plan of action is a change mindset, right?

 

Dr. Mo (25:07)

Absolutely. And it’s there, right? Like I always think preparing for things in advance before they happen is so powerful, right? We talk about journaling. We talk about goal setting, all these different ways to say, I can, I want to see it, right? You want to start working towards your dream house. What does your dream house look like? How are you going to work towards it? If you don’t know what it looks like, if you’ve never drawn it or even in visualize that, how do you, how are you going to get it? You’re not, you’re not going to get it.

 

Angel F (25:08)

Really?

 

Roger Crouell (25:33)

get it. That’s right.

 

Dr. Mo (25:35)

So I think one thing that I’d like to talk about quickly on mindset is biases. So if you’ve taken the straight up care training, or honestly, if you’ve been a student of mine anywhere, you know that you’re going to do a biases project with me. And this is difficult. These are difficult to read. It’s difficult to think about. It’s difficult to walk through. And some students can only go real low level, right? They’ll talk about confirmation bias and that’s, that’s okay. Right. As long as we know what role it plays in our life. And as I talk about this, I don’t want you to think that you’re bad. If you start to think about your biases.

 

Because one thing biases do is they’re there to keep us safe, right? Our biases have been garnered by us navigating life. So when we navigate life, whether it’s something we were told as a child and it’s kind of a core memory for us, or it’s things that have happened to us that make us, you know, stay in this path to walk safely. So one thing I think about, and I tell this story all the time, is that if I see a large group of Native American women, I get a little uneasy. Not because I’m a racist, but because I got jumped when I was a kid. And so my body and my brain

 

tell me, be careful, this has already happened to you once. And then as soon as I go, you’re safe, like then that’s gone, right? Am I a bad person? Am I racist? Absolutely not. But this is something that happened to me. So oftentimes when I talk about biases, people get bent out of shape because they’re like, I don’t want to do this or I don’t want to be that. And you don’t have to be anything. But what you have to be is aware. So when we talk about mindset, we really want to keep in mind awareness is really what keeps it key. But if you’ve never thought about where your biases are, if you’ve never sat down and looked at them, I really challenge you

 

to do that. What are your biases? Where did they come from? That’s the biggest one, right? Like thoughts can come into your head and you’re not a bad person. It’s if you act on those or you speak on those, then I might say the opposite, right? And where did they come from? Did they come from you? Did they come from your parents? Did it come from something that happened to you, a traumatic event? And if it did, how does that impact other people around you? So if you’re navigating life and you’ve never thought about what your biases are or what role trauma had played or something, you know, that acted on you,

 

A lot of times I work with younger students and so they’re like, my parents told me that and I don’t actually believe that anymore. I’m like, cool, now you get to change it, right? Like now you got the chance to like redo that. But it really is this awareness. So when those thoughts come in or if those thoughts come in, where do they come from? And how do you not act on them? You don’t have to even change the thought because we can’t control all the thoughts that come into our brain and we’re not bad people if we have weird thoughts, right? You’re not a weirdo, you’re not bad, you’re not anything, but it’s just what we do with those thoughts that

 

that makes the change, right?

 

Whitney | She/Her (28:09)

Yes.

 

Dr. Mo (28:11)

I didn’t mean to clincher that statement, but I just think that biases are so important. And if you guys have anything to add about biases or how to navigate them or like what that looks like, I feel like it’s a big part of mindset, right? Like what has happened to us, where we’ve been through really plays a huge role in how we interact and navigate with other people in the real world.

 

Whitney | She/Her (28:14)

Yes!

 

Angel F (28:32)

very much so. When I discussed earlier about having apprehensions about these potential internships, it is because of biases. It really is. It’s things that I grew up hearing, even though this is a field that I already work in, I still have certain biases. And oddly enough, one of the ones that I had in regard to an internship, my dad was the one who influenced my bias in my problem, right? The thing that I thought was problematic.

 

And in speaking to him a few weeks ago, he was also the one who today as a more seasoned adult tried to help me change that bias that he had helped instill in me in the first place. And I said, you know, I wouldn’t have thought about that myself if you hadn’t helped me through that, you know, insight there. So my mindset shifted immediately. I was like, maybe this is what I could do in that internship. That’s going to make it comfortable for me, but beneficial for the client too.

 

in a place where I was originally very uncomfortable with the idea of what it was. And he’s like, yeah, he’s like, you know, it’s gonna be all right. And I was like, but all my life I thought blah, blah, blah. And he was like, yeah, I know I told you that. He’s like, I’m sorry, I’m sorry, but I’m here to help you change your mindset on it now because this is something that I know that you’re passionate about and you wanna be successful in, but this is a stumbling block for you right now.

 

Whitney | She/Her (29:43)

hahaha

 

Angel F (29:55)

And I know that you need this internship and I don’t want you to go in there with a mindset that’s gonna be detrimental to what you’re going there to do, which is to grow. So, yep.

 

Dr. Mo (30:05)

I love that. What a powerful parenting moment too. That’s really rad.

 

Angel F (30:09)

I can’t tell you, he does his best.

 

Whitney | She/Her (30:13)

So, you know, those are those internalized biases, right? Those things that we have started, we’ve taken in and said, you know what, I can’t do that because I’m not good enough in this, that, a lot of limiting beliefs. And that’s a key component of mindset and using mindset to shift, there we go, you know, how you approach things. What are some of…

 

the common limiting beliefs you have experienced or you’ve heard others experience that have kind of been a hurdle for implementing this more of a positive mindset and approach.

 

Dr. Mo (30:59)

Can I not answer your question and move on to something real quick? Okay, I’ll bring it back though. So I think when I hear positive mindset, I want people to know that there is such a thing as…

 

Whitney | She/Her (31:02)

Yes!

 

Dr. Mo (31:12)

a bad positive mindset too. When we push positivity on people, there’s a word I’m looking for that’s not bad, but toxic. There we go. Toxic positivity. So I did this to my kid on accident, to be really honest with you. I was just like, yeah, but see the bright side and yeah, but blah, blah. Cause I am sunshine and rainbows. And that I’ve taught myself to be that. I was pessimistic a bit like my young son. Anyways, he was like, you know, I really don’t.

 

Angel F (31:22)

-huh.

 

Dr. Mo (31:40)

enjoy your sunshine and rainbows every day of my life and it just doesn’t work for me and I want you to know that it’s that it’s impacting me and I was like, okay. And then I did a little Googling because that’s what I do and I was like, I was being like positive toxicity to him by just shoving it into his face. And now I still am not I mean, I’m not going to change myself for that kid, but I’m also not going to be that born in his side either. And so I now listen to what he has to say a little bit longer a little bit

 

Angel F (31:49)

Mm -hmm.

 

Dr. Mo (32:10)

more allow.

 

and say what he needs to say before I’m like, yeah, but okay, is there a silver lining? It’s not like, what about the silver lining? You know, I’m not in his face, but I’m like, can you find a silver lining in this? And if he says no, I leave it at that, right? So when I hear positive mindset, I just wanted to make sure that we knew that that exists. And I think for as far as limiting beliefs, what I hear the most is I can’t do it or I’m not good enough to do it is what I, I think that’s like the overarching couple that I hear.

 

Roger Crouell (32:41)

Without moving somebody says they’re not good enough or I can’t That’s when you know me. What’s the word can’t we got to take that out of the equation? You know can is shouldn’t even be a word. I can’t do what you can do it. You just ain’t set your mind to it What is limited you what I what has got you so stalemate that you say you can’t do it if it’s educational get educated, you know, I mean if Things like that, you know, I mean I I kind of took that out of mine Okay

 

I feel like I can do anything. I guess that’s the mindset and I think everybody else think like that. That’s a little stipulation of mine

 

Dr. Mo (33:11)

yeah.

 

I love that. And it is, you know, some people have much higher hurdles put in front of them, but

 

I really feel like with the right support, man, you can do whatever, whatever you put your mind to these days. And we see it, right? We see athletes doing things that we would have, you know, 20 years, we didn’t even think they could come close to. We see people doing jobs that never were put in those places before. Like we’re really seeing this huge like opening of like the sky truly is the limit. And I love that we’re seeing representation in all these different areas so that the younger population can see, yeah, I can totally do that. I can fit in.

 

these places and really take out the can, right? A lot of times with people who have a felony or have been justice impacted, you know, we really hear that. Like, I can’t, I just, I don’t have, I messed up, right? And we’re like, yeah, yeah, maybe. And it might be a little bit harder now, but you know, we can hold hands and do this thing together and we can, we can jump through whatever fiery hoop that people will put in front of you.

 

Angel F (34:19)

I think I find myself somewhere in the middle. For one, I get accused of over positivity on a very regular basis. My patients, they either love it or they hate it. I promise there’s no in between. But I think limiting mindsets is to a degree past the experience like we’re talking about. But well, it’s happened before, it’s happened before, it’s happened before. What’s gonna make this time different?

 

Dr. Mo (34:33)

you

 

Angel F (34:47)

But secondarily, as a parent to a varying ability child whose body is never gonna allow them to do all the things that they so desire to do, I find myself being a little reluctant to totally, I don’t use the word can’t, and I agree with Roger on that, that the word can’t can be very limiting. But I also find myself trying to be of a realistic mindset too. I don’t wanna be a naysayer, but I don’t wanna give you

 

100 % you’re absolutely capable of that when I know that I’m looking my child in the face and lying to her. Now, what can we do? Because there are alternatives. If we’re willing to bend and compromise a little bit, then achieving a said goal may be possible. But I don’t want to set somebody up for something that I know is going to be a complete failure if we can work on amending that desire just a little bit to make it achievable. Because I…

 

My daughter, one day she said, well, my, I can’t do that. And she was talking about athleticism or something. And I said, well, you know, outside of having special Olympics, I said, having functional legs is not a requirement to success. I said, the only person that’s required to have functional legs for success is an athlete. So I’m not quite sure what it is you think you can’t do. Now, obviously we know you’re not going to run track.

 

and you’re not going to play basketball and you’re not going to play soccer. But what else is in your desire pool that your legs aren’t required for? Because I promise you, I know plenty of successful people who are wheeling around in wheelchairs who can’t even speak that are mighty, mighty successful. So what are some of those things?

 

Dr. Mo (36:38)

Love it. You’re good, mama.

 

Whitney | She/Her (36:40)

That’s amazing. I just had to chime in on the word can’t. My dad had a saying, the word can’t is not in our vocabulary. And that has been a core tenet of my life. And so whenever you said that, Roger, I was like, yeah, I’m with you. And so, you know, as we are talking about this, you know, there’s the

 

self -talk, the negative self -talk, and I’m looking at our chat here in YouTube and Jessica shares about having self -compassion. You know, and that is, we’ve touched on it a little bit, but what’s, what are your thoughts on that compassion? There’s the compassion for not setting unrealistic expectations, but also the self -compassion to not be perfect. I love your thoughts everyone.

 

Angel F (37:39)

I’m okay with being mediocre some days, I’m gonna be honest. I wanna be successful and I wanna do good things, but I also recognize that there are some days where my 100 % doesn’t look like yours. And I’m okay with being mediocre today because allowing me to be mediocre today is allowing me to reserve my strengths for tomorrow. So you’ll get better of me tomorrow, I promise it’s coming. But today you just can’t have her. Isn’t that okay with me?

 

Dr. Mo (38:08)

That’s awesome.

 

Roger Crouell (38:08)

I agree with that totally I agree with angel, you know me just just be yourself

 

Dr. Mo (38:12)

Yeah, I think.

 

I think there’s times for rest, there’s times for play, there’s times for work.

 

that saying like, if you don’t, I don’t know, make time to be healthy, you’ll find you’ll end up getting sick. However that saying goes, we’ve all heard it, right? And I think it’s so true, right? I know I used to run myself real hard. And when I played roller derby, the way I think the universe and my life would show me that I was going too hard as I would break a bone. And that happened about 10 times until I stopped playing roller derby. I didn’t learn to slow down, but I stopped. But it did, it slowed me down, right? I was like, well, my thumb is broken and now you’re gonna

 

for 11 months. So for 11 months, you’re not doing things at the the rip that you were doing them, right? Or like, I broke my tailbone or just different things that like, it was like, I couldn’t realize how to slow down. So the universe was giving that to me. But now I think I figured it out. I haven’t broke anything in a few years, knock on wood. But just being able to have.

 

Whitney | She/Her (39:14)

as you go surfing tomorrow.

 

Dr. Mo (39:16)

Well, we got some steps between surfing and actually getting surfing. But yeah, I think just having some of that.

 

that space to say today’s not the day. And like we were talking about earlier with the grant, right? Just like I got a little bit done today and that’s going to have to be okay for today. And that’s all that I can give. And maybe tomorrow I can give a lot to kind of catch up or maybe I need, maybe I give zero tomorrow and then the day after I can give again. And I, Angela, I think you’re, Angela, I think you’re right on that.

 

Angel F (39:49)

It’s important because when we were in the midst of our mental health crisis or when we were in the midst of our addiction, the only thing we knew was to be full stream ahead focused on that one thing, to get to the next drug or the next high or to get through this mental health crisis. And so we’re so used to being full stream ahead, whether it’s good or bad, and we can turn a good thing into a bad thing really quickly and not even realize it. So definitely the ability to recognize it

 

and slow down and self -compassion and all of that is very, very important in changing the mindset because I can stop using and my mental health can be back good, but I’m also the same person who has to watch when I’m ready to pick up a book and read it because I will put everything else to the side and I will read that book cover to cover. Sounds like a nice thing, but when you’re me, it’s not a good thing. I mean, everything will go to the detriment of reading that book or everything will go to the detriment of this new hobby.

 

And so learning how to slow down is very, very important, even if it takes 11 broken bones, apparently.

 

Dr. Mo (40:57)

Dang, such a slow learner sometimes. Right, exactly.

 

Whitney | She/Her (41:00)

And that’s okay. Is it not the mo – Let’s – Yeah.

 

Roger Crouell (41:05)

Eventually you’ll get it.

 

Dr. Mo (41:06)

It was so much fun. Roller derby was so much fun.

 

Angel F (41:10)

No

 

Whitney | She/Her (41:12)

And one thing I’d like to share just because it was a big shift for me was, and this was actually taught to me when I was in school to become a counselor, was the impact of the word but, you know, when we’re saying some good thing, but here’s the bad. And what I was taught and what I really then found to be true was everything that’s said before the but usually the good thing.

 

is forgotten and you focus on the next part. And so instead of saying, but, you say, and. You are doing a stellar job and I see these ways you can improve, right? And because we can be more than one thing at a time. We can have these opposing facets of ourselves and it’s okay. And I think that’s a big mindset shift just in a like.

 

our country and our society is to be able to say, yeah, I’m going to take a break from today and or not go to my kids soccer game and I’m still a good mom or what have you. And I just, you know, that’s something that was big for me.

 

Dr. Mo (42:28)

I love that.

 

Whitney | She/Her (42:32)

Okay, we have…

 

Dr. Mo (42:32)

I’m going to be aware of that from here on out because I don’t know that I’ve ever been told it like that. So now I have that awareness. Thank you.

 

Whitney | She/Her (42:39)

Yeah, yeah, maybe it’ll be a little hack for everybody. So we have another person who Nicole is saying that her grandmother also said not to use the word can’t and she’s lived by that. And then we have a question from Corey. What are some techniques that you all use to combat those negative thoughts, maybe combat depression?

 

Roger Crouell (43:03)

Me myself, I exercise, I work out. I’m a gym rat, so that helps me. That helps me tremendously. Find yourself in a positive space. It can be gardening, walking. Use those kind of tools and those kind of avenues to kind of get yourself out there. I know doing something physical helps me.

 

Dr. Mo (43:27)

I agree with that. I like the, would you say that to someone else? Like if something weird comes in my mind, I’m like, would you say that to someone else? Cause I would never say things like that to another person that sometimes come into my own head. And so if I can tell myself or I’m accountable to it, like I write it down and I’m like, that’s not true. Right? So yeah.

 

Angel F (43:35)

Okay.

 

and catching yourself before you shut yourself off. Sometimes depression and anxiety or, or, you know, other mental health concerns can come in so hot and heavy that you didn’t even see it coming and you find yourself closed off. But if you can recognize the changes in yourself, then you need to put yourself back amongst the group of people who are already there to support you, so that you don’t get closed off because once you’re closed off, spiraling becomes so easy because nobody’s looking and you haven’t told anybody.

 

Whitney | She/Her (44:23)

We’ve talked a little bit a couple times now about the people that surround us. Let’s go into that a little bit deeper. What role do people play in contributing to our mindset or negating it? How do we balance that with the people in our life?

 

Dr. Mo (44:47)

Whitney, weren’t we just talking about this, about like the circle of people that are with you and like how your, maybe I dreamt I had this conversation with you. Anyways, you and I are gonna talk about this later.

 

Roger Crouell (44:47)

That’s it.

 

Whitney | She/Her (44:56)

maybe?

 

Yeah.

 

Dr. Mo (45:01)

I miss that conversation with her. Or maybe I just put you in my circle and I was happy that you’re in my circle. I don’t know. Either way, I thought we had this conversation. But like, you know, you’re, you’re a portion of the people that you spend your time with. And so I think, you know, actually really strategically picking that. And the first time I heard this, I was thinking of a couple of friends that I kind of keep at arms reach. And I was like, no, they fulfill a role for me. It may not be the person who’s in like the driver’s seat with me. And I heard this from my friend, Sasha. It may not be the people who are in the driver’s seat with me.

 

but I may just put them in the backseat, but I ain’t kicking them out of the car. You know what I mean? Like, so having those people close who fill up all those spaces for you that you need, right? It might be, you know, your close, your close knit circle or your hilarious friend that stays right here that isn’t serious about life. And that’s okay because you’re, when you guys get together, you just laugh and that’s amazing. Dubs, I’m watching you, right? Like whatever that looks like. So being, being aware of who you put in, in what space in your life too, right? And remember that the role that you play for other people.

 

as well. I think it’s really important to kind of strategically place amazing people in your life and know what role they play for you. And if it’s your ride or die and that’s the person that you need to reach out to and you need something that you can tell them anything and they’re not going to judge you. I mean, there’s a lot of people in my life that I unconditionally love and they know that they can say some weird things to me and I’m not going to judge them, but we’re going to talk about it, right? So having those people right where they need to be, I think is important. And sorry, Roger, I cut you off.

 

Roger Crouell (46:28)

No, no you you good because I believe in that arm. You need some people that are really get in your your When you mess up you need somebody that really gets and say look pull your coat tail get back. What are you doing? Because there’s times you were with people They were dream stillers Everything that come up there was a talk. They’re still your dreams You can’t do that. You ain’t no mountain and I can see that’s that negative thing

 

But then when you start evolving, you start committing yourself. You want to be one that’s supporting you, because if you were around five million now, I guess you’re going to be the sixth one.

 

Dr. Mo (47:07)

Bingo.

 

Roger Crouell (47:09)

So you stay with the people that’s running with you and like -minded.

 

Whitney | She/Her (47:14)

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. One thing, and I know Dr. Moe, we did talk about this, and I do remember your car analogy. I listened to a podcast like a year ago, I think it was on We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle, and I don’t remember who the guest was, but the message I took away was intentionally investing my time in people. Who do I want to give my energy to?

 

Who do I want to invest and care about? And that has really been at the forefront of my mind and has helped me to kind of let go of some relationships that I was holding on more for nostalgia than anything. And to really be able to say, wow, yes, I am choosing to have this person in my life because they support me, because they call me on my crap, because of X, Y, and Z, and being very aware.

 

of how I’m interacting with people.

 

Angel F (48:16)

Most definitely. It can be so hard when we love and care about those people who have been around forever, but they’re the ones stacking on the negativity. Or the people who just take from you with nothing to give, whatever that take may be. And I struggled for so many years with setting boundaries within relationships. Like I’m not ready to give you up yet, but…

 

Dr. Mo (48:17)

Love that.

 

Angel F (48:44)

This is what I’m willing to deal with today. And if you exceed that, then for right now, I can’t move forward with you. This year specifically, and I don’t know what it was, I guess I got tired of being sick and tired, I don’t know. But I finally had to put some relationships to the side as well and say, every time you speak to me, every time you come into my life, I feel

 

this way. It doesn’t matter what they said. It could have been positive. It could have been negative. It didn’t matter. It impacted me negatively. All of it. And I actually didn’t even take the time to speak to that individual. I took the passive aggressive cop out mode and I didn’t answer the text and I didn’t answer the calls and I didn’t answer the text and I didn’t answer the calls and then I answered and I said, I can’t. And in this case I can’t, but really I’m done. I’ve hit my wall and

 

It took about six months, but somehow the communication stopped. And, but for that six months I held my breath because I was just waiting. And, and had I set that boundary years ago with that individual, then I would not have allowed myself to be so negatively impacted by them because whether they knew they were impacting me or not, I didn’t let them know. So how are they responsible for it?

 

Whitney | She/Her (50:05)

Yeah.

 

Dr. Mo (50:05)

Mm -hmm.

 

Angel F (50:07)

Right? Like, they may not realize that that behavior is inappropriate. They may not realize that that level of aggression or however it is they’re coming off you is harmful. I never set the boundary. I never set the expectation. And I treated, I taught them that what they were doing was okay because I continued to accept it.

 

Whitney | She/Her (50:28)

Yes.

 

Dr. Mo (50:29)

That’s a hard realization. Good for you though.

 

Angel F (50:31)

BANG! I still cringe when my phone rings. I’m like, Lord, don’t let it be down.

 

Dr. Mo (50:40)

So one thing I want to add to this about limiting beliefs is something that I see that is difficult for myself and I know difficult for other people that I’ve talked to that are in recovery is to celebrate. And I’m not sure why.

 

we can’t celebrate ourselves as well as we should, right? And like, what does that look like for chasing goals? So a lot of people that I see that are in academia that are kind of like chasing the next goal, right? Maybe it’s bachelor’s degree, then master’s, then PhD, whatever this looks like, they’re goal chasing and they don’t stop to celebrate. I know I didn’t really stop to celebrate. And I think that we do ourselves a disservice, right? And if there’s anything I learned from Hockey is that we got to celebrate every goal, right? We got to celebrate every single goal that we make. And so how can

 

Can we give some advice to people to celebrate their goals? How do you celebrate your goals?

 

Roger Crouell (51:31)

Me myself I I I do you know me every little small win You know me you separate said you know me you did I you validate yourself you don’t look for other people to validate you You know, you look at the memory, you know, hey did I let’s get to the next phase now and you do you take time to breathe? And then you say okay. I did that stretch that all that go to a next one And this is key one because we need somebody to tell you can’t have it that we can’t

 

Angel F (51:32)

fail. I know.

 

Dr. Mo (51:44)

Absolutely.

 

Roger Crouell (52:00)

See, I’m a big worry. You tell me you can’t, I’m going. Cause it’s a little transparency because of the crime in 93. They told me, okay, you can’t have, you can’t take the state exam. You can’t get your license in therapy. So now you just gave me something to shoot for. You, now you really got me wired up now. So yeah, but that’s the next thing.

 

Dr. Mo (52:03)

Hehehehe

 

Whitney | She/Her (52:23)

Yeah.

 

and I gotta say it.

 

Roger Crouell (52:27)

Validate the small things, but validate the small things as Dr. Moses.

 

Whitney | She/Her (52:33)

I love it. Like, I heard you, Angel, say that you’re like me, you don’t do very well with that. I’m gonna have to work on it. Cause we’re giving the message, then you’re bragging and you’re conceited and this and that. Well, if we do something awesome, I like the idea of giving ourselves credit.

 

Dr. Mo (52:55)

I agree.

 

Whitney | She/Her (52:55)

So.

 

Angel F (52:56)

Like Dr. Moe, I celebrate everybody else. I do. But I feel like my goals just aren’t big enough. They’re not worthy enough. But not only that though, let’s think about back to the expectation, right? Let’s think about when we celebrate ourselves and we present ourselves and our accomplishments, then people are looking at us to continue to excel. And let me tell you something, I fail along the way. This is not.

 

Whitney | She/Her (52:58)

you

 

Angel F (53:22)

you know, one fell swoop and I did it great. There’s struggles and failures along the way. And I’m okay with talking about them with people who need to hear them, but I don’t want everybody to hear about them right now. Like, let me just fail real quick. And then once I get past it, like way past it, you know, then we can talk about that. But I just struggle to celebrate myself because I feel like, well, I should have done it anyway.

 

I should have already achieved that goal. So if I talk about it now at 36, then I’m too old to be excited about the fact that I did that because, well, had I had my life together 12 years ago, I would have already done this.

 

Whitney | She/Her (54:00)

And here’s where I’m going to pull what Dr. Mo said earlier. Would you say that to someone else? Would you say that to someone who’s just achieving their recovery? Heck no, you wouldn’t.

 

Angel F (54:06)

Don’t!

 

joy on their rooftop with a megaphone in front of their neighbors. No, not really. That’s a little extra. You don’t want to give out their business before they’re ready. But no, like my coworkers too, man, I’m the first one to be like, my God, I’m so excited for you. Can we tell people?

 

Whitney | She/Her (54:27)

Yeah. that’s so funny. Well, we’re getting close to the end. And so a few things before we sign off. I knew we were going to get on a roll and it was going to be hard to wrap up and that it was going to go real fast. And it did. But I want to ask each of you and I’ll even pose it to myself. What is a book, a movie, a show, a video, whatever type of media that you think

 

everyone should go and check out. And it can be related to Mindset or it can be some other meaningful type of media to you. But what would you like to share? And while you’re all thinking, I’ll go first. I had one and then during this conversation I was like, I have a better one. And I’m going to tell everyone, check out the poem, It Couldn’t Be Done by Edgar Albert Guest. And anyone who resi –

 

resonated with the idea of the word can’t, it needs to be thrown out the window. You’re gonna love this poem. I’m gonna kick it over to Dr. Mo.

 

Dr. Mo (55:32)

So I have two because I’m extra like that

 

So my first one is that I, like I said, I was a little pessimistic, like my son has kind of traveled through and my mentor that I met just by happenstance turned me on to the book, The Secret, and it really showed me how to use positive mindset. And it’s really propelled me into a lot of great ways. You can find it free on YouTube. You can listen to it. I think there’s a movie. There’s all sorts of things, right? Like you don’t even have to go out and buy it. But it is a great book to kind of help you better understand what

 

you know, positive mindset, how to shift a little bit. And then I already brought up Adam Grant’s Think Again, and I would recommend that to anybody all the time.

 

Roger Crouell (56:18)

Well, me myself, Sylvester Stallone has done some great work. If you go back and look at the Rambos and Rocky movies, it’s the battle of resilience and a change of mindset. So look at those movies. There’s a message in there.

 

Dr. Mo (56:33)

Nice.

 

Whitney | She/Her (56:38)

like that.

 

Angel F (56:39)

on the same page because I surely was not thinking about good literature at all or a good podcast or anything like that. One of my favorite movies from childhood was Forrest Gump and it took a listen. We all know and everybody laughs at Forrest Gump but let me tell you something that little boy if you watch the movie you know his life was trash. It started off trash and everybody doubted him and he listen he may legitimately have been slow maybe his character had him mentally a little slower.

 

But he was resilient and he stuck it out and he carried big old Bubba. Okay, let’s be honest. Through Vietnam with a bullet in his backside. All right. And then he came home and he watched Jenny do all the things that Jenny did. And then he still got Jenny in the end and he got the dream that he had from day one. And everybody just thought that he was just worth nothing and he wasn’t gonna make it. And…

 

Whitney | She/Her (57:15)

Yeah.

 

Angel F (57:36)

He was the happiest man in the world to sit by his wife who was dying just to know that she had, he had her and he had accomplished all these things that people thought he couldn’t do. So the next time you feel like you can’t just keep running. Maybe not literally because we know we got to buy new shoes if we do that too much, but just keep running. I mean, it’s fine. You’ll get there somewhere, wherever there is you’ll get there. It’s okay.

 

Whitney | She/Her (58:03)

I love it. So wrapping up, connecting with me or Dr. Mo, you can do that through all of the Straight Up Care profiles as well as at Syndicate 12. Angel, where can people connect with you?

 

Dr. Mo (58:04)

You’re beautiful.

 

Angel F (58:21)

gosh, if you make me say it out loud, I’ll fail.

 

But I’m on the Straight Up Care website. You can find my profile. I’d love to see you there. I do have a YouTube where I post up videos every single morning. I do it on LinkedIn too, but it’s Rise and Thrive Peer Services if you just wanna see a little snippet of a video. But if you’d like to see me, see me, you can find me on Straight Up Care’s website.

 

Whitney | She/Her (58:48)

Great. And Roger, where can people find you?

 

Roger Crouell (58:53)

You can connect with me at rogercruz .pittspecialist .us or straightupcare .org.

 

Whitney | She/Her (59:02)

Great. And so we are going to continue doing this episode or a segment of Reduce the Stigma Unfiltered every month. And whenever we pick a topic, we want to hear from you. So if you have an idea as to what our next topic should be, go on over to syndicate12 .com. We have a list that you can upvote the topic that you want to see in July, topics you want to see in August.

 

Head on over to Syndicate 12, see what we’re up to. Head on over to Straight Up Care to receive amazing peer services from people such as Angel and Roger. So many people out there that are ready to support you wherever you are and whatever you’re dealing with. Thank you so much for joining us today. Angel, Roger, you too. Thank you. You are amazing and I love this.

 

Roger Crouell (59:55)

Thank you.

 

Angel F (59:56)

Thank you for having us.

 

Whitney | She/Her (59:57)

and everybody have a wonderful evening.

 

Angel F (1:00:00)

You’re welcome. Thank you. Bye.

 

Roger Crouell (1:00:00)

Good night.

 

Dr. Mo (1:00:01)

Yes.

 

Roger Crouell (1:00:03)

Good night.




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Breaking Down Barriers: Accessibility and Healing Art for All

The Mother-Daughter Duo Making Art Inclusive

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Meet Claire Jones and Amaranthia Sepia, the mother-daughter duo leading Sista Creatives Rising. The mission of Sista Creatives Rising is to empower marginalized women and marginalized genders through art creation and accessibility. Claire and Amaranthia, who both have invisible disabilities, prioritize showcasing art that deals with mental health, disability justice, race, gender, and the LGBTQ+ community.

The episode details Claire and Amaranthia’s personal stories and the intergenerational trauma they have experienced. They discuss how art has been a healing force in their lives and how they want to share that healing power with others.

The article highlights the various aspects of Sista Creatives Rising:

  • Art and Mind: A biennial virtual event featuring documentaries, short films, artist talks, and mental health professionals.
  • Sistas Uprising Fund: A micro-grant program that provides financial aid to marginalized artists.
  • 3D Virtual Gallery: A fully accessible online platform showcasing the work of marginalized artists.
  • Self-Description: An emphasis on inclusivity by including detailed descriptions of the people involved in the project.

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Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (00:01)
We have a great episode for you today. Sista Creatives Rising is a project and concept and really can be thought of as a movement founded by black invisibly disabled mother daughter duo, Claire Jones and Amaranthia Sepia. The mission of Cisa Creatives Rising is to help creative marginalized women and marginalized genders gain accessibility and visibility in the arts to facilitate personal healing. Using their own experiences with trauma, mental health, and the power of art and creativity to heal, these incredible ladies are centering marginalized artists and creating an accessible community of healing through art. Stay tuned and get ready to be inspired as we reduce the stigma.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (01:55)
Hello and welcome to Recovery Conversations. I’m your host, Whitney Menarche. I have brown hair and I’m wearing a black t -shirt with the words reduce the stigma on it. Today’s conversation is with Claire Jones and Amarynthia Sepia, a mother -daughter team and creators of Sisa Creatives Rising. The mission of CISA Creatives Rising is to help creative, marginalized women and marginalized genders gain accessibility and visibility in the arts to facilitate personal healing. Claire and Amarynthea, thank you so much for joining me today.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (02:28)
Thank you so much. Thank you for having us. Yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (02:32)
So a mother daughter daughter duo, this is really exciting for me to get to speak to you both. I haven’t had this kind of guest before. And I’d like to start with if we could learn a little bit about each of you individually.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (02:45)
Yeah, so we’ll do our self descriptions. I could go first. You go first. Yeah. So I’m Amaranthia and just a quick description of a self ID or self description is like for accessibility purposes. And so we always like to do that with every podcast we’ve been on recently. And so I’m a 24 year old young black woman and I have a large headband on and it’s black and white striped. I have long black locks or dreadlocks and they’re off to say the left side of my face. And I’m wearing a red turtleneck and a black and white kind of sheer, let’s say like a long sleeve shirt, open shirt with like a golden zipper behind us. It’s a white wall with some decorative fabrics, red, black and white patterned fabrics and some Japanese art decor on the wall and some fake flowers. Sunflowers. Yeah, sunflowers and vines. Yes. Hi, I’m Claire. I am a 61 year old black woman. I’m wearing large red framed glasses with a gold chain and I’m wearing a Kente African head wrap. I’m also wearing a brown necklace, a long brown necklace knotted, which is knotted. And I’m wearing a smaller necklace with red hearts, a black shirt. And I, I, did I say I’m wearing a black shirt? Yes. And that’s it. Yeah. And we both have glasses. Hers, hers are red. Mine are like round and clear. But yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (04:37)
Thank you. And how about, I want to come back to the self description, but first, why don’t you tell us a little bit about who you are and then we’ll get into really the work you’re doing.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (04:50)
Yeah, so at Cista Creatives Rising, as mother -daughter duo, we are both disabled. We have invisible disabilities. We both have complex PTSD, agoraphobia, and panic disorder. And we’re also now navigating the fact that I’m learning that we’re neurodivergent as well. And just kind of working with our therapists and doctors on like what that means for us and…It explains a lot of how we interact with the world. And yeah, with Cis of Creatives Rising, like in your introduction, we highlight marginalized women and marginalized genders who are creating art that isn’t usually seen in galleries because maybe they’re doing something that’s non -traditional. It’s not fine arts. They’re talking about issues that maybe are seen as taboo, like mental health disability, disability justice, talking about race, gender, you know, the LGBT community, etc. So we’re trying to bring awareness to these stories that aren’t seen and heard, that they tend to be rejected, and give them a platform and pay these artists as well, with the help of our sponsors to create documentaries and virtual galleries. We have a 3D virtual gallery. We create through Coons Matrix and you could completely walk through it. It’s like VR but without the headset. And we hold this event called Art and Mind, which is every other year. The next one will be next year. The last one was in October. And we showcase these documentaries, these short films, and have therapists speak. We have mental health professionals. We have disability activists shared our stories while we showcase and celebrate these artists and give back. We raised funds. Our last show we raised like $1 ,453, I think. The goal was a thousand. Yeah, the goal was a thousand. That’s the first time we ever reached a goal for anything. And so we used that to fundraise for our Sisters Uprising Fund, which is our new micro -grant program. And so we’ve, we’re getting ready to, we’ve selected our finalists. We’re just getting ready to pull them together.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (06:57)
Wow.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (07:15)
And each finalist, which will be eight, will receive 200 each. So they’ll be in this gallery and they’ll be able to use those funds for their art or paying bills, medical bills. And we plan each time when we do Art in Mind to increase that amount. So it’s really exciting for us. So this is a long held dream, but yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (07:40)
absolutely incredible. You have so many things going on, and the accessibility commitment is really prevalent throughout. And I’d like to start there, you know, this is the first time that I have done any sort of physical description of myself when introducing, and that was because I have watched your videos and I saw that that was something that you really encouraged. And could you share with us what that act, what being, what sharing those descriptive details does as a way of increasing accessibility?

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (08:19)
Yeah, yes, if you hear a tiny little mew mew in the background, that’s our kitten Mina. Well, cat. Yeah, yeah, I call her kitten. She’s five years old, but she acts like a kitten. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. So, so the question was, what, why is it important to?

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (08:31)
My five -year -old dog still acts like a puppy, so I understand. How does it help with accessibility by providing that description?

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (08:45)
Well, as people with invisible disabilities, we realize the importance we are living in an able -bodied world. So living in an able -bodied world, everything is catered to that mindset. And we realized for a long time that we had these challenges, but we didn’t know what they were until Amaranthia, I don’t, is in 2021 when we joined Painted Brain, which is an organization in a nonprofit organization in California. And we were a part of their show, Discovering a Place for Us. And they really helped us to hone into what these indivisible disabilities were and how important it was to,

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (09:21)
Okay.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (09:44)
To talk about them. And so we realized that, wait a minute, we have these invisible disabilities. And we met a lot of people who were, who had the same, who were going through these same issues. So we realized that if we want to do, create art and talk about art, share our stories on what we were going through, that in this able -bodied world, in…order to open that conversation, we would have to do art that was accessible. And then we did a course, a course back in the fall of 2021, and that opened it up for us to understand how we would go about to do it, how we would create this grassroots organizations, which in that course we called Sister Creative, we came up with Sister Creative Verizon. And it was there that we began to have this concept and further build on making sure that everything was accessible because we realized there were people that were viewing this work and they were not able to really see them, feel themselves or see themselves because there wasn’t, there weren’t any, a lot of people don’t represent their work from that perspective. So we began to share the work and do captions and everything like that because we realized that a lot of people have these invisible disabilities. And it was important to incorporate it in our work if we were going forward to continue to share our story and to get out this message. Yeah. And with the self ID, we actually learned about that because I did. What was it? It’s like a virtual residency and it was called Socially Distant Art. And it’s catered to disabled artists, but also like non -disabled artists to learn about accessibility and melding it into our art and like our process of creating. And they talked about self -idea as like one of the first things. So we had to describe ourselves because we had some members who might be blind. We also had some members who might be deaf as well.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (11:55)
Yeah. Mm -hmm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (12:09)
And so we had to learn about ASL and incorporating that into our events and stuff. And so we realized that this was so important that sometimes people cannot see what you’re showing on the screen. And, and it also helps them when they’re listening to something that if they have an idea of what you look like, they can imagine you or have a better understanding of your background, like who you are. and I think it just creates a deeper.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (12:35)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (12:38)
Connection. So I think I hope that through what we do, that we can help more people understand like why it’s important. Yeah, bridge that gap. And we learn as we go because we don’t know everything about this. We’re discovering it as we go. Every day we’re learning, every day we’re learning something new. And last year, we learned that some people, people who have autism, you need to be careful when you put up the videos.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (12:56)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (13:08)
because if there’s too much movement, too much – Or if a video is on auto – auto – Auto, yes. Yeah. So that could cause a problem. So then we realized we had some videos on our website that was doing that. We were like, we went and we fixed it. So as we go, we are learning things and as we learn them, we’ll adjust to suit because, you know, it’s, it’s a new area. So it’s very, it’s very challenging sometimes, but it’s –

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (13:28)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (13:36)
It’s amazing every time you break through and you learn something new.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (13:41)
And isn’t that what we all need to be doing is constantly learning how to make ourselves and our spaces more, I hate to use the word accessible, that’s the best word, but more inviting and more, you know, and so I imagine, you know, the learning is going to continue. And I know I learned from you the importance of that self description. And now I’m going to be thinking of that in a way that I never had before.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (13:54)
Yes. Yes. I’m so glad to hear that. Yeah, that’s exactly why we do this work, you know.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (14:15)
Right, so tell me more about about Sisa creatives because there’s so many different components to it. My understanding is it really came about as a movement for healing. Can you share a little bit about that?

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (14:31)
Mm -hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Do you want me to go first? Well, it started with, I, this is Claire and I was born into domestic violence in Barbados and for a long, long time, all my life, pretty much, I don’t know if you know about the V8 ads there in 2012, there were these, if you didn’t get your V8, which was the tomato juice drink. It was like early 2000. Yeah. And.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (14:55)
Now. huh.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (15:03)
there was this ad that if you don’t get your V8, you would always be walking to the side. Everybody’s walking straight up, but you would always be walking to your side. But as soon as you got your V8, you came back straight up. So that was my life. I felt always like I was slanted in my life throughout my life because I had this.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (15:09)
Okay. Haha. Okay. Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (15:24)
Stigma of domestic violence following me all my life and I never felt I would amount to anything but I would always challenge it and I would break through. I would try, constantly try breaking through all these challenges and my mom was, my dad was violent to my mom when I was in the womb so it was just a part of who I was and so as I came into the world and I got older I promised that I would help my mom. I would make it and I would help my mom. And so Sister Creatives came from, I went through a lot, a lot of changes, made a lot of mistakes, but that remained that long held dream of doing something that would help marginalize women, which I didn’t even know the word marginalize at that time. I only knew that I wanted to help my mom and women like her and like myself. And so when my daughter was born and she came into the world, I…had done all this research from going to Mount Holyoke College as a Francis Berkman scholar. And I had also converted to Buddhism, which helped me view life from a different perspective, from a more Eastern perspective. And so I started to look at life in a different way. And I had the opportunity to go into Mount Holyoke to pull everything together. And I went back to, I got a research grant, went back to Senegal, West Africa to the slave houses off the coast of on the island, Calgary. And I stood at that door where the slaves were sent off and they never saw their home again. And I, for me, it was that moment that things came together for me because I was standing in that wound that was never healed. Has never been healed in a person like me, you know? And so I decided that I would fight against intergeneral the legacy of intergenerational abuse. And so that is where this came from. And the healing, when Amirati was born, the healing continued with her. And now my mom is gone. She’s not here. My whole family’s gone. They’ve transitioned. I’m the only one left. But now Amirati and I are doing the work that I promised myself that I would do. And that’s where this, what this is all about. That’s where it came from. And then when I got cancer in 2022, and I almost lost my ability to walk. That was when I realized I have to get up and do it. I can’t wait anymore. Yeah. Yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (17:59)
That is incredible. A couple episodes before you, we actually have a historical trauma specialist, and she was just talking about how the trauma doesn’t always start in your generation, that intergenerational trauma, and that you sometimes have to go back several generations to the initial event, such as slavery.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (18:12)
Wow. Yes. Mm -hmm. Yes.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (18:28)
And, you know, and so it’s just my mind is kind of like, how amazing to have that conversation, then I’m hearing your story, I’m getting to witness your story. And it is so reflective of that. And now you’ve taken generations of trauma, of discrimination, and your own experience, partnered with your daughter and created a movement.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (18:39)
Yeah. Yes. Yes. Yes, and it’s called, our slogan is called, is bridging gaps to the past, the present, to the future, and that represents the journey. So I’m bridging the gaps, I went back to understand the slavery, and then to the present, you know, I learned about myself and started my recovery and my haven, and the future rests in my daughter. I’m 60, she’s, I’m 61, she’s 25, and so we’re doing this work so that…

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (19:06)
Wow. Mm -hmm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (19:24)
She can push forward into the future and I don’t have to worry anymore about all that stuff because I’m not living there anymore. Yeah. You know, I’m healing and doing better.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (19:33)
Mm -hmm. Yeah. And so here is this, like, I’m just imagining this visualization of all of this coming towards you, Amaranthia, you know, all of this family history, and then you’re, I’m not sure who kind of had the first thought. What were you thinking when your mom, or maybe it was you who had the idea, how did you two come to the decision of let’s make it in this way? Let’s create this project.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (20:03)
Hmm. Yeah, it’s been a long term, like long time coming, I would say, because when I was born, I had a lot of health issues and we couldn’t understand what was going on. And it got worse because of bullying I was experiencing. And I originally lived in Japan. We lived in the US and then we went through an expat opportunity for my dad to go to Japan and we lived there for like two and a half years and that was kind of like my foundation of going to Japanese international school. And so that along with being Buddhist helped. Practicing Japanese Buddhism specifically already before going there heavily influenced me as like a four to six year old. And I was around a lot of diversity and art, the art was everywhere and I was immersed in Buddhism and Shintoism. And so when I came back, I was just totally enamored with art. I was already creating because my mom would always have a lot of artistic stuff around me as a little kid. And when I came back to the US, was at 2006 and I started having to go to public school, the bullying began and I started experiencing really severe racial trauma and just feeling like something’s wrong, I’m not fitting in and I couldn’t understand what I felt something was wrong with me. And it just kept escalating, escalating and eventually we moved to now we’re in New Hampshire and we’ve been here for what, about…15, 16 years now? Yeah, 15, 16 years. And we were originally in Connecticut before we moved here, when we came back to the States. And the bullying kept escalating and I just created, kept creating and art was my only friend. And so my mom saw that and she showed my art to my art teacher at the time at the elementary school and said, hey, you need to look at this and look at what this kid is doing. And he thought…thought, wow, this is really amazing. This could be very healing. And he created this art show at this weekly meeting we’d always have at the school called Town Meeting. It was like every Friday. And that was their first art showcase. And then kids started talking to me. And I realized, like, wow, like art is healing for me. And I think at that time I was like 10 or 11. And once I got into middle school, it kept getting worse. And eventually I left middle school because of the bullying, trying to do this anti -bullying project called Do I Know Who I Am? But because it was addressing these issues and stigma and race and gender and all these different things, I was seeing these kids suffering like me. The school didn’t want to address it, so ultimately I had to go to a virtual charter school called Villex. And from 13 to 18, I was in recovery trying to figure out health issues and what eventually got diagnosed with you know, complex PTSD and panic disorder. And for that whole time, I created this, a new version of that project called I’m Proud of Who I Am and started doing these, this tour with my mom and the local artists. I got a scholarship at a local school called Kimball Jenkins and it was a, it’s an art school. And I worked with one of the adult artists there to share my story through these shows that were going to different libraries. In different towns in our county and so I did that between the ages of like 14 and 16. And that was my way of talking about kind of taking what my mom did, addressing these issues around trauma and mental health through the arts and a way for me to heal while also trying to encourage other kids and their parents like, hey, art is healing and that we need to hear these stories. And this is a great way for people to learn who they are and so through that and going navigating for my mental health journey and having to constantly self advocate, I realized that, wow, we can take this concept and do something more with it. And so like my mom said, we did Painted Brain, I did some other shows. I started doing stuff as art coordinator, like as a volunteer when the pandemic hit. And we were like, you know, let’s do our own thing. Let’s do something like I’m proud of who I am again. But we’ll do it completely, you know virtual. And we, that was the first Art in Mind show in 2021. And from there, we were like, we need to do something more than Art in Mind, maybe create like Art in Mind, but then have stuff surrounding it that, you know, supports it. And that’s where this concept for Sister Craigs Rising came together. So yeah, so it’s a long story, but basically, you know, what was really important was that she was losing her voice as she got sick.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (25:06)
Okay. Hmm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (25:20)
Her voice was leaving and I was like, I had already done something like this for my last project at Mount Holyoke where I did a play called Shadows of Udo and shared my story and gave back to the community. And I was like, wait a minute, if I’m going to give this to my daughter. And so I kind of used that concept of that play writing, that play that I did and said, use your art to tell this story.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (25:42)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (25:49)
And I just started to archive everything she did and frame everything through going to Michael’s and all these different, and I framed everything from our pocket. And she had art shows all over the place from just this concept. And so that’s where the seed of this thing started to burst open. But I didn’t know that I was headed to here, to this moment. I didn’t know that I was…

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (26:14)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (26:17)
Doing Sister Creatives Rising until that course that we did at the end of 2021 really coalesced everything. And then when I got sick and was in the hospital, I realized I can’t self -sabotage, I can’t do this anymore. And the important thing that I need to say that, remember I told you that how I was, my mom had been, violence was, my dad had been doing violence against my mom when I was in her room? Well, and then I realized later that I had passed that on to Emirati and my mom had passed on that stress in the womb to me because when Emirati got sick at 13, I had a salivary test done and it showed our cortisol levels and both of them were almost flat line, the exact same. And that is when I realized this is a representation of what they talk about with Black women having stress in the womb.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (27:14)
Mm -hmm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (27:14)
She showed up the same cortisol level as me. And so I realized that that is probably what showed up. If my mom had done that, I would have seen it years before that hers was like mine. And so I realized that I had passed on this stress and everything to my daughter and that was a part of her illness. And so this is all what we are coming to term with now in, as we navigate this new life.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (27:23)
Great. Yeah. Yeah. So processing making sense of it while also providing what’s helping you to others.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (27:49)
Mm -hmm. Yes. That’s basically it. You got it. In a nutshell. Yeah. Yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (27:52)
Well, I think I’m at a loss for words because how amazing is that to be able to help others in general. But it demonstrates that we are always still like a work in progress, just like we’re always going to be learning how to, you know, be more accessible for others and things like that. And then to share what’s working.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (28:08)
Yes. Mm -hmm.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (28:18)
And the community that I imagine that builds of people who are finding support and hope and healing through a common medium.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (28:30)
Yes. Yeah. Yeah. And the amazing thing about the pandemic, I, in Buddhism, they always taught us to look for the light within everything. No matter how bad something looks, there’s always a light. So in everything I do, I always look for the light. So in the pandemic, the light was this beautiful creation of learning of Amaranthia. We didn’t understand why she went to virtual school before. We were able to take that.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (28:41)
Mm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (28:58)
And create this platform, this virtual platform, because no one wanted to give us a chance. No one wanted to help us. And so that’s where we were learning that galleries, people like that don’t want to learn about this work from marginalized artists like us. So that’s why we created this platform, because we knew firsthand that they’re not going to look at our work. And we were like, well, we are going to show our work while showing others, because no one is going to do it for us. So why not create?

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (29:05)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (29:28)
This whole platform. And so we are pioneering this new effort for marginalized artists and while we, and we’re putting out the work that we have had in our computers all these years as well. Yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (29:42)
And so let’s talk about that platform. So you’ve had the gallery. It’s all virtual. And I imagine that means that you’re able to connect with people that otherwise would have no opportunity to access. And what’s it like? So is it tell us more about accessing the gallery and some of the other programs going on?

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (29:49)
Mm -hmm. Exactly. Exactly. Yeah, so with the Art and Mind show, like if you go on our website, we’ll have, we have like a main page on our site about Art and Mind and describing like how it came about and the 2021 show and the 2023 show. And on the, there’s a sub page for the 2023 show, which is called I Know Who I Am, Journeys of Women of Color and Fem Expressing Creatives. And that was…kind of part three of that anti -bullying project, I’m proud of who I am and do you know who I am. And you can see the gallery completely embedded. So if you go check it out on like a laptop, you can just look at the gallery through our site and it’ll do a guided tour. Again, it’s through Kuhn’s Matrix and I wish I believe it’s a German company and you can just interactive all the art pieces and we always make sure to do each art piece has like a image description so you can click on it and it’ll describe what it looks like you can read that and Learn more about the artist just like you would a regular gallery. So you’ll see it on the walls Sometimes there’s there’s music playing there’s music playing in this one by composer we worked with named Mel Chilianis who’s Australian artists disabled artists and Yeah, it’s just really, really cool because our first show was, it wasn’t the best virtual gallery. We were working with a local gallery, or gallery in Massachusetts, not local, but near us. And unfortunately, it disappeared. They took down the gallery and we’re like, my gosh, how are we going to do this? Do we need to partner with something else? But we realized for working with Coons Matrix, we’d be able to control how we want to present it and control how…

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (31:52)
So… Mm -hmm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (32:03)
like make sure that everything is captioned. If we want to show a video in there, if we want to have an image description, you can even put sculptures in there, which we haven’t tried yet. You could do like a 3D scan. Yeah, so it’s really, really, really cool stuff that you could do with the site. And so it allows us to completely like, you know, take like an amalgamation of different things, you know, using Zoom for art in mind.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (32:15)
Fascinating.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (32:28)
using Coots Matrix for the gallery, using Give Better for the fundraising and the tickets and everything. And combine this into one platform that aids us in getting to these artists. Yeah. And then we have this section where we are going to be doing workshops. We are beginning to do workshops talking about what we do and how, you know, keynotes. We are now working on our keynotes and building out those.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (32:56)
Mm -hmm.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (32:56)
So many things that are going on and we are going to develop a Ko -fi page where I’ll probably… Or coffee? Coffee. Coffee or Ko -fi? Ko -fi, I can never say it correctly. But we will be doing a bunch of different things there. We have a donation page if anybody wants to help us with getting out to work, with our work. It’s a whole bunch of things that we are able to do. Yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (33:06)
Hehehe

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (33:23)
And we’re doing this, not as a nonprofit. A lot of people think we’re a nonprofit. We just apply for grants and we keep moving.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (33:31)
That’s amazing. And when will be the next gallery opening?

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (33:39)
So the next one is for our Sisters Uprising Fund. The first Sisters Uprising Fund. Yeah, the first Sisters Uprising Fund micro -grant recipients. So they’ll have, it’ll be those eight artists. We just had an open call from, when was it, from, was it from March to May? I think so. Yeah, it was March to May, so it was like for over a month, and we had all these artists submit, and we have…we narrowed it down to eight and these artists will be similar to Art & Mind. So they’ll be in their own gallery on Coons Matrix. And you could see like, there’ll be a video where it will be compiled, like sharing their stories about how these funds will help them this $200 and what they’re going to be using it for. We have some artists who said, we’ll help them with medical bills, with gender affirming care, will help with creating a home studio and…helping with creating a new work or helping with a bill so then they can get to creating more content and bring in a more consistent income. And we’re like, wow, this is, we couldn’t believe people are doing this with 200. This was like a test for us. But it really, wow, you can do that. So people were getting really creative with it. And so…

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (34:48)
Yeah.Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (35:05)
This gallery will tell those stories and you’ll see all of these artists, each of them have two pieces each. You get to see, read their bios. And yeah, and then after that we’ll have in what, 20, 25, we’ll have our art in mind virtual gallery again. And we’ll be able to, that’ll be like in the fall of next year. That’ll be after our virtual event, our film event. So, we’re trying to do it so every year we have something going on on Coons Matrix. Yes. And our down years from the show is when we do work on these workshops or work on the Sister Creatives Rising Fund, look for more other ways, other funding, get opportunities. Cause we’re looking for ways to sustain ourselves financially by doing this work that we love and we fought for for so long. We want to be able to do this work and take care of ourselves from it because we’re…

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (35:38)
Yeah. Mm -hmm. Yes. Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (36:04)
We’re immunocompromised because of my still in recovery from my cancer journey. And so I am immunocompromised. We still wear our masks because of being immunocompromised, I still wear masks. We are COVID conscious family. And so that’s why everything is vertical. So we’re looking – Virtual. Virtual, vertical, virtual. I’m confused. Yeah, so that’s what we’re doing. Just –

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (36:30)
Hehehehehe

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (36:35)
Building so that at some point we’ll be able to sustain ourselves doing what we love and helping others at the same time.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (36:45)
I am excited to have crossed paths with you, because I’m certainly going to be checking out the virtual gallery. When you were talking about hearing those stories or being able to understand people’s stories, I got chills just thinking about, in $200 may not seem like much, as you said, but it does. It really can. And I imagine even just people feeling seen and valued.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (36:54)
Thank you. Yeah. Exactly. It really helps. Mm -hmm, exactly.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (37:15)
That probably does so much more even than the $200.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (37:18)
Yeah. Yeah. Some people tell us, wow, I’m so good. When they’ve come to our shows, they’ve told us, wow, if I had never come to this show, I would never know an artist like that was out there because they’re not getting shown their marginal life. So they’re not going to be on gallery walls because most of 80 something percent of the people who get shown are white male. Yeah. And then white female. Especially in New York, we have some like statistics on our site talking about that. Yeah. We have those stats up.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (37:29)
Yeah. Right. Exactly.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (37:46)
if people want to check out why we do this work. It’s because we got tired of just being marginalized and not being looked at. And we have talent and the people we showcase are very talented. And so we decided we are going to do something about it. Yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (37:48)
Yeah. Yeah. Incredible. And I understand you mentioned like in the down years between the galleries or the big art and mind gallery that you do workshops, resources, things like that. And I understand you have a mental health resource that is available.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (38:19)
Yeah. Yeah. So with so far with the 2021 Art in Mind and the 2023 one, we’ve created mental health resource documents and they’re like a virtual PDF. And the last one we did for the 2023 show, we put it together in Canva and we gave it to the audience members at Art in Mind. And it has articles, two articles written by the featured therapists that spoke at our event. Amanda McGuire, who is a therapist in New Hampshire working with, she’s a Black, like we were saying, COVID conscious, she’s also COVID conscious, amino compromise, Black woman, and she works with clients who are also homebound. And so she created this article talking about how you can find support and stay safe and she also did this talk. And so you’ll be able to kind of get a summary of what that talk was in this document. And it gives a lot of really great advice. And then we have Journey LaFond, who is Black, queer, I believe, non -binary therapist, I think social worker, specifically social worker, also in New Hampshire. And they did an article focusing on the BIPOC, LGBT folks who are looking for support. So those two are in there and then it’s just this large list of different resources for different demographics. I think we even have one for Australia because our work with Mel, the composer, was able to provide that. So yeah, it’s not fully international, but it has so much in there. I think it would be, I think…

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (40:06)
Yeah.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (40:14)
It was very helpful to our audiences. So we want to be able to continue sharing that.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (40:19)
That’s wonderful. Before I get to kind of my wrap up question, let me ask, how do people connect with you? Where can they find you? Find the mental health resource, find the gallery.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (40:32)
Yeah. So we have our Instagram, SistaCreativesRising, and that’s what we’re on most of the time. And so we’ll put out videos about disability advocacy and we’ll put up the stuff about like the work we’re doing, the art. You’ll get like word about the galleries and stuff on there. We have a newsletter on our website, SistaCreativesRising .com. Could sign up there and sometimes they can get early news through that newsletter about our open calls and stuff. I think by the time this interview comes out, we’ll probably have our coffee set up. So if people want to subscribe to us and get early access to open calls or workshops or the Art and Mind tickets when they come up again or…you know, see articles, like articles by my mom about her experience through cancer and disability. And I’ll be also be doing some commissions on there to help with, you know, maybe organizations or artists who just want like a portrait or work for like an event or something if they want artwork for that. So that should be like coffee, Sister Creatives Rising. And our website is in full. Our email is info at sista creatives rising .com and our website is Yeah, our website again is sista creatives rising. So yeah, we’re really excited about the coffee coming together. But yeah.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (42:13)
Yeah, lots of exciting things for you. So I always like to wrap up the conversations by asking if people were to only take one thing away from this conversation, what would you like it to be? And I’d like to ask you each to answer that.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (42:34)
You can go first. Okay. Yeah. Okay. So after going through cancer, my journey through cancer, I had decided to come up with this call of action. call to action. Call to action, call, get ahead of life before life gets ahead of you. And what that means is that live your life in dearly consciousness and dearly awareness and don’t wait till something big like what happened to me, a sudden emergency for cancer, a scroll from my spine happened to just decide that you’re going to do what you want to do with your life. Live your life in a preventative, be preventative and cautious, unconscious in the way you live your life. And attend to those drip, drip, drip, drips and don’t let them big to build a big puddle or a big flood. Get ahead of your life before life gets ahead of you. That’s mine. Yeah. And I think for me, it’s talking about the accessibility that I hope that people take from this, that accessibility, it could be a lot to take in because there’s so many aspects of it. But as long as you’re doing it in pieces, and you’re listening to the disability community and you’re understanding that accessibility is more than just for physical disabilities, but also for invisible as well. And understanding that physical disabilities don’t represent everyone. Sometimes it’s more complicated than that. And so doing things like self -ID, captioning, doing image descriptions for like a social media post. Even if you don’t get it perfect the first time, that’s okay. We weren’t perfect at all. We’ve gone through so many different captioning programs. We’re still learning the best way to create image descriptions. Sometimes we miss something in the self ID. What matters is showing that you care and that you’re listening and yet you’re taking information in. And…us, we’re still even like trying to figure out like how can we improve our website. We want to work with accessibility experts so then we can fully make make it even more accessible. So we’re trying to always find ways to learn and so we encourage people to learn and take their time and if you stumble that’s okay as long as you’re communicating to your audience, hey I’m learning, I’m listening and yeah I think I think that’s really important for people to know that it’s okay to…not understand everything immediately.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (45:25)
Right. Wow. Well, Amaranthia and Claire, thank you so much for taking time for sharing your personal journey, as well as the journey of CISA Creative Rising and what you’re doing to really reach people, build people up, put people who are systemically and historically pushed aside in the spotlight, giving them the opportunity to be who they are, just sounds absolutely amazing what you’re doing and that it I imagine is having such a huge impact and will continue to do so. So thank you so much.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (45:58)
Thank you. Thank you for having us. Thank you so much. We love this conversation.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (46:09)
It’s been a pleasure and I am certainly learning and I took a lot of things from our conversation today and from visiting your website and it will be something that I continue to use as a resource to increase my ability to be inclusive of all accessibility levels. So thank you.

Amaranthia & Claire – Sista Creatives Rising (46:31)
You’re welcome. Thank you. I’m so glad to hear that. Yeah. Be used as a resource. Yes. That’s our goal.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (46:33)
Yes, I and Exactly and everybody listening check it out go there. I guarantee you will learn something there are so many interesting videos on the YouTube and just things that you can can learn and Start taking those small steps forward So everybody check out and Maranthia and Claire sister creative rising and just start taking that action and one way to do that is to share this episode, help other people find this amazing organization. So please send this to anyone you think may be interested. And thank you for listening.

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Steps for Success

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP TO START WORKING WITH CLIENTS!

StraightUpCare.org is the online website connected to the Straight Up Care app (available on Android and iOS). 

Tips:

  • You must complete your profile in its entirety for it to save. You will be able to go back and edit information, but you must complete each section for it to save.
  • You need to enter something for each field/section. 
  • Profile photo dimensions must not be larger than 1080×1080. If you attach a photo larger than this, it will not save.
  • The “About Yourself” should be brief – the app is where people who have already decided they want to work with you schedule, it is NOT where they look at your profile to decide if they want to work with you or not. Your about section on your straightupcare.com members directory profile and personalized website should be more detailed as that is where people will find you.
Steps:
 

1. Peer Signup: Go to the Straight Up Care app at https://www.straightupcare.org and create your account. (Step 1 Instruction Video)

2.  Create Your Profile: Once logged in, select “Profile” from the dropdown in the upper right corner. (Step 2 Instruction Video)

3. Set Your Schedule and Rate(s): From your dashboard, select “Generate Schedule” from the dropdown in the upper right corner. If you are interested in working with individuals who are using grant funding (START-SD) to cover the cost of their appointments, have at least some appointments set at a rate of $30. (Step 3 Instruction Video)

There is also a longer walkthrough video available if that is a better method for you to follow along: .ORG Full Setup Walkthrough
 
FAQs:

Q: What’s the difference between straightupcare.com and straightupcare.org?

A: Straightupcare.com is the business website. This is where people go to learn about Straight Up Care. Straightupcare.org is the web-based access point to the app, which is our HIPAA-compliant platform for delivering care.

Q: Do I have to create a profile if I already have one on straightupcare.com?

A: Yes, the two profiles are different and serve different purposes. Your straightupcare.com profile provides you access to our peer community and lists you in our member directory for those who visit straightupcare.com. Your straightupcare.org profile is for delivering services to individuals. 

Q: I thought an app was on a phone?

A: Apps can be phone/tablet-only or web and phone/tablet accessible. The Straight Up Care app is accessible through the web-based portal AND an app for iOS and Android is in the final steps of being approved and activated. You can begin delivering care through the web-based app and when the phone/tablet app is available we will let you know so that you and your clients can download it. 

Q: Why didn’t it ask me for a username and password?

A: The Straight Up Care app uses your phone number and the verification code for login.

Q: Why does it ask for my father’s name and my social security number?

A: These are used for security and verification.

Q: I uploaded my picture, but it doesn’t seem to be saving?

A: Try a different image. It’s likely that the picture you selected is too large.

Q: Where do I add my certificate?

A: Your certificate should be uploaded and documented in the “Educational Information” section.

Q: What am I supposed to put in “Experience Information”?

A: This is where you would add any relevant work experience, such as organizations you’ve worked at as a peer specialist.

Once you have an approved StraightUpCare.org profile, email [email protected]

Subject: SM Announcement Post Request

Attach a picture of you that we can use for the social media post. 
You will receive the announcement post for you to share on your social media sites.

NOTE: An announcement post will not be provided unless a StraightUpCare.org profile has been approved.

Your members directory account serves multiple purposes:

  1. Consumer-to-Peer Matching: Individuals who are seeking peer support are able to match with peers through our straightupcare.com directory. The matching is based on lived experience, with a consumer able to identify which lived experiences they have and would like to connect with a peer on.
  2. Peer-to-Peer Connection: Similar to other social media platforms, your membership to straightupcare.com includes the ability to connect with other peer specialists on the platform. This includes:
    • “Friending” other peers
    • Sending messages to peers
    • An activity “wall” to share accomplishments and updates
    • Access to group forums, such as resource sharing and continuing education events
    • And more to come!

Steps:

  1. Add your information: The more information you add to your .com profile, the more people will be able to learn about you to decide if they’d like to work with you.
  2. Add Scheduling Link: Once your straightupcare.org profile has been approved, you will need to add the link to your scheduling page to your member profile. Click here for instructions: https://www.guidejar.com/guides/a4dd4984-b27f-4011-b909-c621bd791889

You will be receiving updates, opportunities, notifications, and more from Straight Up Care via email. Make sure you don’t miss anything by adding the following email addresses to your email’s “safe sender” list.

Each email platform has different steps to complete this step. If you are unsure how to do this, we recommend Googling “add to safe senders list” with the email platform you use. Example: “gmail add to safe senders list”

Create an account on Syndicate12.com.

Part of the Straight Up Care network, Syndicate12. is a recovery-oriented social media platform designed specifically for individuals with mental health and/or addiction lived experience. With live chat rooms, contests, posts, and more, Syndicate12 is a place for you to connect with potential clients.

You can use the same information for your Syndicate12 profile as what you put on StraightUpCare.com. Be sure to add the link to your StraightUpCare.org scheduling page and StraightUpCare.com profile. 

FOR PEERPRENEUR PRO SUBSCRIPTIONS

Work on your website WILL NOT begin until you have an approved .org profile setup with schedule. Once that is done, we will begin working on your website.

Watch your email for a message from [email protected] with instructions on how to login to your website and begin requesting changes.

This site is a custom modification built on top of WordPress with many integrated paid plugins, and modified for site speed and ease of use. That said, you certainly do not need to know any WordPress knowledge at all to change or upgrade your site!

Be sure to check out the four quick-start videos below. 

While updating your website isn’t required, it is highly recommended. Straight Up Care will be marketing you as a peer specialist and directing potential clients to your website. You want to ensure that website is reflective of you as it is a way to “sell” yourself as the peer they should work with.

All PeerPreneurs have the ability to record a Meet The Peer marketing interview for our Reduce The Stigma show/podcast. This is optional. Learn more about Reduce The Stigma: https://straightupcare.com/reduce-the-stigma-podcast/

Schedule your interview here: https://calendly.com/straightupcare/peer-specialist-marketing-interview

This feature is only available for those with a PeerPreneur Pro subscription. 

PeerPreneur Pro subscriptions include a Marketing Starter Kit, which includes:
  • One (1) business card design 
  • Four (4) additional social media posts with tips for optimizing the posts
  • One (1) flyer for distribution as you’d like
  • Three (3) social media marketing clips from your Meet The Peer Interview (available only after recording of the interview)
NOTE: Printing materials is at the expense of the individual and is NOT covered by Straight Up Care.
 
Complete this form to receive your Marketing Start Kit: https://forms.gle/wq1kd3CbuvhaKAmJ6

Social Media

We are all working together to drive traffic to peer specialists.  One way to do that is to follow Straight Up Care and your fellow PeerPreneurs on social media. Be sure to like and share as well!

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If you have Roku and/or Amazon Fire TV, please add our channels!

Important Links

PeerPreneur Hour is a monthly gathering for all PeerPreneurs on the Straight Up Care platform. During the gathering, we will cover topics such as marketing yourself, website customization, entrepreneurial mindset, and other topics relevant to your success. PeerPreneur Hour is held monthly on the 3rd Thursday of the month.

Peer Day is a FREE virtual gathering for peer specialists (CRS, CPS, PSS, CFRS, etc) and those working towards or interested in becoming a peer specialist to connect, learn, and receive/give support to others. Peer Day is held monthly on the 2nd Monday of the month. 

Instruction Videos

Note: Some videos may have information that is no longer relevant, such as bank account info page when setting up your .org profile. We try to keep these videos updated as best we can. We apologize for any confusion this may cause.

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How Syndicate12's Contingency Management Program is a Win-Win for Businesses and the Recovery Community

In today’s world, success is often measured in profits and market share. But what if there was a way to achieve financial goals while also making a positive impact on your community? Syndicate12’s revolutionary contingency management platform offers exactly that.

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Veteran Joseph Soel discusses moral injury and reintegration

Understanding the Veteran Experience: From Moral Injury to Reintegration

Joe Soel, author of The Broken Mirror of Memory: Iraq and Other Tales, provides insight into the veteran experience, emphasizing the significance of moral injury, a lesser-known but impactful aspect of military service. As a veteran who served 13 months in Iraq, Joe began writing as a means to process his experiences, eventually turning his reflections into a powerful memoir. He discusses the challenges of reintegration into civilian life, the psychological toll of combat, and the often overlooked emotional and moral struggles veterans face.

Joe passionately argues for a broader recognition of moral injury, which he believes is as crucial as addressing PTSD. He highlights how societal glorification of military service can obscure the real consequences of war, both for soldiers and civilians. Soel explores how the media’s portrayal of military actions can shape public perception and policy, often neglecting the long-term effects on veterans. Through this heartfelt conversation, Soel calls for a deeper understanding and support for veterans, advocating for peace and a more compassionate approach to conflict resolution. 

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Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (00:00)

Americans have two days dedicated to those who have served our country, Memorial Day and Veterans Day. And today’s guest illuminates for us the importance of remembering these individuals every day of the year. Get ready to be inspired as we reduce the stigma.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (01:28)

Hello and welcome to Recovery Conversations. Today’s conversation is with Joe Soel, author of “The Broken Mirror of Memory: Iraq and Other Tales.” Welcome, Joe. Thank you so much for joining me.

Joe Soel (01:40)

Thanks so much for having me on, I appreciate it.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (01:42)

Yes, you know, I’ve read your book and I really enjoyed it. And I’d love for our audience to hear in your own words what your book is and a little bit about you.

Joe Soel (01:53)

My book is an attempt to get all of Iraq out of me and write it down. And that’s what I really… Well, when I started writing I didn’t know that it would be a book. I thought I was just writing stuff down. And eventually I wrote so much down that it became a book.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (02:10)

Yeah, and in the book you wrote about how writing, it sounds like, was always a part of your life. It just was something that maybe was a hobby.

Joe Soel (02:20)

Mm -hmm. Just a hobby.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (02:23)

And so you started writing about it and it became a book to get Iraq out of you. That is a very powerful statement. Can you share with us kind of what it was like before you started the process of writing?

Joe Soel (02:39)

It was messy and it was messy throughout the process of writing. It was not a clean sort of walkthrough, shall we say. It was very messy.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (02:53)

Okay, and for those who haven’t read your book yet, could you share with us how long you served in Iraq and maybe then how long until you started the process of writing your book after you were released from service?

Joe Soel (03:08)

I started writing in Iraq actually, started writing things down. I served in Iraq for 13 months.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (03:15)

Okay. And so you came home and started then just continue, or I should say continued to write from what you had started. And you know, it’s interesting to hear that you started writing over there because I imagine you don’t get many opportunities while on active duty to be in a vulnerable space. How did that come about for you?

Joe Soel (03:41)

It was after a particular attack that I started writing things down. It was during a three -day period with no sleep for me.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (03:51)

wow. I’m sorry to hear that. And so in writing this book or writing in general, you came to a conclusion at some point to then share it with, you know, all those who come across it. Can you tell us about what led you to decide to put it out there for others?

Joe Soel (04:12)

Well, people need to understand the veteran experience. I know, you know, that Memorial Day is coming up, but really, it’s really, you know, the veteran experience is only honored in two days, you know, Veterans Day, Memorial Day, and the rest of the year, our experiences are forgotten. And I feel like on Veterans Day, Memorial Day, they’re paid a lot of lip service by public officials, but it’s not really truly understood. So I wanted to get the story out there so that perhaps we could have less wars in the future. You know, that might be a good thing. And if we have to, we should really think about why we’re going in and what we’re doing and how we take care of the people that we send in when they come home.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (04:58)

Right, and your story was a result of the September 11th attacks, if I recall correctly. And I imagine there were many young men and women similar to you, and I’m curious if in retrospect, the publicizing of September 11th, the constant media coverage, if that…

Joe Soel (05:06)

I mean, yes. Yep.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (05:26)

played a role in people enlisting and maybe who wouldn’t have otherwise.

Joe Soel (05:34)

I’m certain that it did. It was, you know, as you likely remember, it was wall -to -ball media coverage. So I wouldn’t be surprised if the level of media coverage did contribute to the influx of enlistments. I think that a lot of kids who were in high school like myself during September 11th signed up as soon as they could right after. There was probably two or three from every high school in America you know, at the very least. I’ve heard estimates of 5 million total, something like that.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (06:15)

Yeah, absolutely. And that’s a young age to go and serve, whether you’re a reservist or someone looking at active duty and over in a war zone. And so you’re talking about helping people understand the veteran experience. What role does media play on that component? We saw it leading in. We see it in coverage of the war. We saw it in the you know meetup with the September 11th attacks what about the role of media for the veteran?

Joe Soel (06:53)

For the veteran, I think media, much like public officials, pay a lot of lip service to the, What I think my history professor would have called, probably what I would call the American civic religion. And we certainly do have one in this country where there’s a glorification of revolutionary government, which of course our government was founded through a revolution, therefore it is a revolutionary government. We have an example painted on the Capitol Dome of the Apotheosis of Washington. The deification of Washington, he’s in the middle, dressed as a Greek god, that sort of thing. And it really…I’ll let my dog in here. It really tends to grow this culture of the glorification of military service, the glorification of warfare and militarism, and with no real thought of the consequences of that, no real concern for the consequences of that. And in doing so, we’ve set up many millions of soldiers throughout our history, including in the most recent generation, for a lot of suffering and a lot of, you know, we say in the army, you know, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Well, that seems to be exactly what we’re doing with our media coverage of veterans issues and the lead up to the war. If you remember, CNN was a big cheerleader for the war, as was Fox News. And also MSNBC, they cheerleaded us into the Iraq war. And now you can’t find a single anchor probably on Fox News, well, maybe Fox News but you can’t find a single anchor on CNN or on MSNBC that would say, yeah, you know, that was a good decision. You can’t find a majority of the American public that would say, yeah, that’s a good decision to go into Iraq. But at the time, they were all cheerleading for it.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (08:47)

Right. So thinking of the individual who served, who’s gone through training, which is physically, mentally exhausting, I can only imagine, what then is it like? What are we not recognizing for that person who returns home?

Joe Soel (09:09)

When you go into the army, you go through basic training, you are trained to be a killer. And when you come to attention, you shout, kill! When you run, you’re singing cadences about killing, and death and destruction, and you’re gonna bring death upon the enemy, and there are even cadences about killing civilians during military training, which is against the Geneva Conventions, not explicitly. And it is explicitly taught in the training classes that you cannot kill civilians, you can’t violate the laws of war. However, the cadences seem to indicate a cultural attitude of almost indifference. While I was in Iraq, I did see a bit of indifference towards civilians. I also saw quite a bit of care from folks in my unit. So…It’s simply reprogramming that then leads to…it leads to a disconnectedness with civilian society when you return. Really the military is what sociologists would call a total institution. So it’s quite similar to a monastery or a prison, except in the case of a monastery it’s not ignored. In the case of a prison it’s not shameful. It’s in fact glorified. So it’s a total institution that is glorified in our society. And it separates you off from the rest of society and it becomes very hard to reintegrate whether you go to combat or not. Combat just makes it worse because that’s the application of the philosophy of the total institution of militarism that exists within our society. When you participate in the application, you are forever changed one way or the other, whether you want to be or not. So that’s really the problem with reintegration.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (10:56)

The reprogramming, that word really stands out to me. And what, can you paint the picture for all of us who have not had this experience, for what it’s like when your identity is no longer solely based in your military service?

Joe Soel (11:21)

when your identity is no longer solely based on your military service. I personally became very lost, disoriented. I still continue to strive from goal to goal, achievement to achievement, and still have that military drive which really is all that you…Half left, really, is the drive, but you don’t know what the goal is. You no longer have the mission that you had.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (11:52)

Then having to find that new purpose almost in civilian life, while also having gone through an experience that it in some ways it sounds like makes you go against who you would rather be with whenever it’s, you know, pushing kill in these different mindsets. So then there’s that, who am I afterwards? Is that accurate?

Joe Soel (12:21)

Yes, and a lot of it is tied up in the concept of moral injury. When you do things that are contrary to your own deeply held personal beliefs, whether religious, moral, or otherwise. And war will make you participate in things that are distasteful, and you then have to grapple with that and deal with that. So the reintegration is very difficult when you are dealing with doing things that go against your conscience. That’s really what came to mind when he asked the question was really moral injury. What’s the what’s the what’s the disconnect? What’s the difference? What’s What’s the real issue and I think even more than PTSD, which is a real? A real issue. I think moral injury is an even bigger issue, but it’s not very well addressed because that would go against the glorification of the military through American civic religion it would go, you know to say well our soldiers have participated in something that has morally injured them would indicate an error on the part of the system which would then call into question the system therefore moral injury is not very well dealt with and I think that’s a symptom of the glorification of militaristic culture.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (13:40)

I mean, you hit it so perfectly. We are all well aware of PTSD for veterans. The statistics, which I cannot rattle off the top of my head, however, we all know it’s outstanding. And moral injury is not something I at least have heard in relation to serving and the veteran experience. Is there…I mean, you just said there isn’t really recognition of it, but is there any space in which it is recognized? Do you even see that amongst your fellow veterans where there’s a recognition of that moral injury?

Joe Soel (14:20)

I do among some of them. Some of the more pro -peace veterans, some of the more peace activist circles that I would travel in. Whereas in the general veteran population, it’s suppressed by drinking, it’s suppressed by new drugs, it’s suppressed by the epidemic of veteran suicide, you know, 22 a day. I…I would be willing to bet that if you did a psychological study, if you drew it out over five years, you would find a lot of those veterans had symptom of moral injury. Now the VA does have programs for moral injury now. They didn’t in 2009. The Army certainly didn’t, and I’m not sure what they’re doing nowadays for that since I’m out of the Army. I’m no longer…

plugged into the institution, shall we say. But I think that as our society progresses a little further, we’re finding that moral injury is being a bit more well treated. It’s hard to acknowledge it from a military standpoint, even speaking with senior members of my former unit when we talk about certain things that I…will not state or bring up and describe when I say, wow, you know, that particular incident really bothered me. And it’s, well, you know, we had no choice. You know, you got to do what you got to do. It is what it is, that sort of thing. That doesn’t make those senior leaders bad or wrong, but they’re dealing with it in a way that they can deal with it. And you can either acknowledge it and…suffer or you can say well it was what it was we do we had to do and you know go on with it and there’s a certain truth to saying we did what we had to do because in many cases it was either you know, fire the missile or you know, continue taking fire, that sort of thing.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her

And so thinking of, you know, that’s wonderful that there’s starting to be some recognition of moral injury. I can’t help but think about what all we as the people around you, the people in this country, we need to be doing to better support our veterans. And perhaps it is more recognition of the moral injury. Is there anything else that the person who wants to show respect and appreciation to a veteran, what they can keep in mind whenever maybe trying to display that appreciation?

Joe Soel (18:08)

It’s, it’s… I think going beyond thank you for your service as a platitude would be nice. I think the best thing the American public could do, in my opinion, is get out in the street and demand an end to these endless wars, one way or the other. Right now we’re fighting a proxy war in two locations. We’re giving weapons to Israel, we’re giving weapons to the Ukraine to fight Russia.

The Russian army is made up of mostly conscripts. And so those conscripts don’t necessarily want to be there yet. They’re being slaughtered, you know, wholesale by weapons we gave Ukraine. There’s a lot of civilian deaths in Gaza that bother me. Although I will say that the attacks of October 7th were just absolutely horrifying. And I believe some response would have been necessary. Sometimes you have to go to war, it’s a question of how you conduct it. I think that our country should really view war as a very last resort. And when we don’t do that, we expose millions of young men and women to trauma. And we expose, you know, in the case of Iraq, nearly 5 ,000 to death. I think it’s closer to 8 ,000 if you factor in Afghanistan. It might be 7 ,000. But, you know, those are young lives that aren’t coming back. So what the American people could do is demand an end to the system of organized warfare. That’s something that I’ve argued for since I was an undergraduate, is simply defunding, de -escalating, and de -legitimizing the…system of organized warfare that we have as a species entirely, not just as a country, but we seem to have it as a species, don’t we? And I think it’s very troubling that we choose to settle disputes in that manner when you would think there would be such a better way.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (20:17)

You think about how different our world is today than hundreds of years ago, and yet we are solving some conflict in the same manner. And the long -lasting repercussions is what really stood out to me when I read your book was the, and maybe this isn’t a surprise to anyone, but just the weight that you carried home with you metaphorically, of course, just the lives touched, the lives lost, the trauma, the impact on you, and while it may be recognized, I’m not sure it’s always truly appreciated. You know, you’re home, so your home be happy, I imagine. You’re shaking your head.

Joe Soel (21:12)

Yeah, and there’s a lot of truth to, hey, you know, your home, be happy. But it’s hard not to get sucked into that black hole.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (21:20)

Yeah. And I imagine, you know, you mentioned unfortunately the average 22 lives lost a day of our veterans of our armed services. And that is those who, who we can’t help anymore, unfortunately. There are still many who are affected by you sharing your book about drinking. There are other ways that people are suffering as a result. And by no means is this disrespect or a dismissal of the appreciation of service. It’s just what can we continue to do and how do we continue to support and recognize. What are some ways that you have found to…I don’t know if I want to say make peace. That’s the wrong word. But what have been helpful for you? What do you do to continue moving forward?

Joe Soel (22:17)

I continue trying to do good things for others. I try to build a more peaceful world in my community. I try to serve my church. I try to continue on the process of making amends. You know, there’s a, there’s a Linkin Park song, you know. I’m curious how you’re going to go about making amends to the dead. Actually, it’s Perfect Circle but that’s something, that’s a lyric that’s always stuck out to me. And really, all my life is now is I’m making an amends to the dead and continuing to strive on for them and continuing to just try to do the best that I can to honor them through living a good life, really. And trying to keep that in the forefront of my mind, which is not always possible and not always done. But…it’s something you have to try to do. When you’ve been so close to it, you become very affected by it. At least some people do. Some people don’t. Some people come back and they’re just fine, frankly. But for many people, it is not that way.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (23:38)

Great. Great. I am just really touched by your vulnerability in the book and your willingness to speak openly about your experience, recognizing that there is a message of stoicism, you know, for serving. And I think that by sharing your story, you’re really helping everyone gain awareness of the

Joe Soel (23:46)

Thank you.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (24:10)

the toll that’s taken as well as what we can be doing. And as we wrap up this conversation, I’m curious if people could walk away with only one message from this conversation, what would you like it to be?

Joe Soel (24:31)

My message would be to love your neighbor as yourself. And when we love our neighbor as ourselves, when we take into account the Lord Jesus’ golden rule, we know that we cannot harm any other being. Therefore, we should be working for peace, we should be loving, we should be kind, and we should take care of our fellow human beings. We’re kind of stuck on this planet together, we might as well get along.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (25:04)

Well, I hope everyone hears that because we could all use more kindness in our lives, more joy, and just connection to others. And so thank you so much, Jo, for your book, for your advocacy, and for coming on and talking with me today.

Joe Soel (25:26)

Thanks so much, my pleasure.

Whitney Menarcheck | she/her (25:27)

And if you are interested in learning more and reading Joe’s book, be sure to check it out. It can be found online. It is, again, The Broken Mirror of Memory, Iraq and Other Tales. Thank you all so much for listening.

Joe Soel, author of The Broken Mirror of Memory: Iraq and Other Tales, provides insight into the veteran experience, emphasizing the significance of moral injury, a lesser-known but impactful aspect of military service. As a veteran who served 13 months in Iraq, Joe began writing as a means to process his experiences, eventually turning his […]

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